Approaching Women & How Men Are Hurting Their Success

Ideally you would want women approaching you. Why? Because all that really matters is her level of interest.

Many guys know that most women just realistically aren't that direct to go up and approach a guy. They're usually more subtle.

When they're potentially interested in a guy they'll give nonverbal body signals to him (aka 'flirting').

Quite simply, the more natural a woman is (and less influenced by empowerment or society), the more authentic and flirtatious she will be.

Think of pre-teen junior high girls and how they are masters of flirting and getting what they want.

Unfortunately, now we actually have 'grown up' women who don't give ANY signs or signals to guys. The 'independent' women are notorious for this.

They'll sit at Starbucks with their laptops and iPod's wondering how they can never meet any men when there's single great guys all around them.

They won't show any signs of interest because they're so 'developed' that they lost touch with their natural ability.

Their conscious reality of logic, development and independence became their unconscious nonverbal behavior. It took over the place of their innate ability to instinctively flirt.

All of this greatly frustrates men and it puts all of the risk on them instead of the women doing their role so that the guy knows that it's ok to approach.

When women don't flirt (and wonder why men don't ever approach), it's preventing their own dating success as well. It polarizes the result for the man.

He's the one taking ALL of the risk and has no idea where she is coming from. She could easily reject him, often does and then wonders why she can't meet men.

Men don't want to hurt their ego and many great men just WON'T approach cold women

I have good news and bad news;

The bad news is that this reality is very true today (the prada's dismissive, aloof behavior).

Ladies, it takes two. It's not just up to the guy to do everything.

My #1 advice for women is to get in touch with your natural character again and flirt with men you might be interested in. You've already missed all kinds of great opportunities. Get back in touch with your intuition. A guy can just show up and you'll KNOW. Then it's on you to show very subtle signs of interest and if he doesn't get the sign oh well.

But for a guy to cold approach a dismissive aloof woman takes on a lot of risk for him. Ladies, for your own sake, start flirting again!

So how do I 'approach'? Almost always it's just being perfectly normal, casual and social. I can say anything because I'm just connecting with another person.

The secret here to me and other 'naturals' is that we let our body language do all of the talking.

So I say to just be perfectly casual and when you do approach a woman, you're just being social without expecting an outcome or trying to 'get something' from her.

Women are very intuitive and they can sense when a man wants something.

Guys will think that if they could think of something unique to say, that she'd be impressed and maybe open up to him. Well, the thing is that attractive women have heard pretty much every possible line anyways.

They've heard it from the other men who have 'approached' with the inaccurate relational dynamic.

Practicing pick up lines is a waste of time if you think about it. It's really like you're acting. And then you have to keep up the 'act'.

That is an enormous amount of work. Actors can act throughout an entire movie to make the character 'believable'. However, with women and in everyday life and relationships, their intuition is very keen.

If you're an amateur actor you're not even going to make it TO or past the auditions.

Yet when you're operating in the natural dynamic, everything is superfluously smooth. I call it being above the game; an uberplayer.

But that's the way it's supposed to be and yet it's all done with respect to the woman because the decision is really up to her...you're just facilitating everything.

Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power, body language and social dynamics. Learn how to be an alpha male who is comfortable in his own skin and succeeds with women and dating @ http://www.abovethegame.net Also, you can get instant access to see the 'secret of women' for yourself @ http://www.secretofwomen.com/resources.htm

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