***SUCCESS STORY***

Hi Michael:

"This is the sex life I've always dreamed of having". "Why do I feel so good when I'm around you?"

That's what my girlfriend told me the other night after I gave her a two hour massage etc. Everything I learned from you lead me to be more confident with women and able to get more experience in areas that I otherwise would not have.

I have met up with you three times over several years and enjoy when I am reminded of how much these meetings have changed my life. The value of your bootcamps far exceeds other materials (although they are still very valuable) like your book.

I look forward to learning more. Thanks for the newsletters; they are the only ones worth reading.

Thanks again,

Derek T., Pittsburgh

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks for the kind words, I remember you having an AWESOME attitude of TAKING ACTION and asking great questions all along the way.

And I also remember how you EVOLVED each time to another higher level of mastery, and I myself was inspired by your DRIVE.

The Bootcamps are exactly that: BOOTCAMP - intense, action, driven, interactive, in the field, where you get to have your skills personally honed. You can't HELP but graduate from Bootcamp with a massive amount of practical learning.

For more info on the Real World Bootcamp, go to:

http://thedatingwizard.com/bootcamp.htm

It's great to hear about it when guys attract quality women who work out as much more than just one-night stands.

That being said, I think it's important that guys reading this understand just how DEDICATED you are as well to learning, and to the fact that you did read the book and DEVOUR it and you came to Bootcamp each time with great questions and clearly defined goals. And of course, you've also got the CDs.

When a guy is DEDICATED, he sees the value in WORKING at this skill. He knows that the more he puts in, the more he will get out.

When a guy takes DEDICATION and combines it with the RESOURCES I provide, he will SKYROCKET his success. The eBook will give a guy the CRUCIAL FOUNDATION.

The CD Set will REALLY take him to a whole new level ENTIRELY, and BOOTCAMP is where he will put it all together IN THE FIELD for the most massive learning experience. In the Bootcamp, a client gets to benefit from all the subtleties he is experiencing and observing- remember, if communication is about 93% body language and tonality and what we see and hear, then every SUBTLETY in that COUNTS.

This means the exact way you are saying things, doing things, which of course also FLOWS comes from the way you are THINKING.  And in person, I can tell exactly what's going on and customize my coaching for the person.  And also, a client gets immediate real-life feedback from the GIRLS, and no matter what they do, it's all used to enhance your learning so that you constantly improve and you learn to easily figure out what just happened, why, and how to make the next interaction even BETTER.

Now, a guy can jump straight into Bootcamp, but having the benefit of the Book and the CD Set beforehand will allow him to REALLY take off when it comes to success at real world pick up and long term attraction. And of course, there is nothing more real than the Real World Bootcamp, where a guy is immersed in non-stop pick up for 3 days and nights. He will be able to DRAW upon all that knowledge and be able to learn that much more from winging with me and from my feedback, than if I had to spend all that time explaining everything from the book and CD Set to him and also waiting for all that to soak in and get mentally processed before we even HIT the field, where there is going to be a lot MORE to process.

So whatever level a guy comes to Bootcamp at, he will graduate to the next level. The eBook and CD Set resources allow a guy to come to Bootcamp at a higher level so he can graduate the program at an even HIGHER level.

Once again, thanks for your letter- you truly deserve all the success you are experiencing!

Speaking of real life learning, it's awesome seeing theory in ACTION, and seeing exactly how a guy is applying the science and art of attraction successfully. To me this is the "sweetest science of all". In fact, it's not just a "means to an ends" for me, but it's actually FASCINATING in and of itself.

So I'm going to use a fresh letter that just came in to help show the beauty in all this stuff. We'll see how a guy pulled off an awesome job attracting a woman, and then we'll take a look at it in slow-mo, blow-by-blow, so you can really get a good look at what's going on.

Of course, this is not only going to be fun as heck, it's also going to be one awesome learning experience about how to be even more successful with creating attraction and also understanding the dynamics of female culture and psychology.

So hold on tight and get ready for some fun:

>>>LETTER<<<

Michael,

Hey we had a phone consultation last Sunday. I appreciate the knowledge that you shared with me and your personal story as well. I gotta couple things to say and a few questions as well, you can put 'em in the newsletter if you like.

Your recent newsletter was about the guy who got divorced, took out a new woman and had her eating out of his hand, how he kissed her hand like Don Juan instead of on the lips and left rather than going home with her. Of course you remember, you wrote it. Also, if you remember in our phone conversation, you mentioned how, internally, your negative experiences with women that were the result of you behaving according to the brainwashed culture, eventually made you reach boiling point, and put you over the top, and you decided from there to not give a *(&%, to start giving women "a hard time" and you said BAM the results just happened. Even though you later improved upon this and found a way to get even better results without being abusive.

I have to admit that after seeing these things and being logical, I like to play devil's advocate and do things that are counter to what others tell me are true...

So...since our talk I checked on a couple of other dating sites, just to see what people say compared to you, I wanted to see if it was all the same, or if everyone thinks they have their own great idea that only works for them, but doesn't work for anyone else, etc. I found that a lot of the others, while not advocating being "Nice" or a wuss, were advocating being a charmer through compliments and romantic things and looking deep into her eyes and flirting on and on, just introducing yourself and saying hi with a big smile on your face... I've always thought this would be a better fit for my personality, but am/was/ willing to give your stuff a go if it is what gets results...

Since I read your stuff first, I've filtered the other stuff through it and compared everything I see/read to what you've said. So, I've found that usually your info is different than the rest and I didn't know if that was good or not:

Well, the CLINCHER happened the other night as I was working on the computer. I was doing some stuff and I always leave the TV on just for background noise. (One Of The Famous Dating TV Shows) was on. It's a show where they put two people on a blind date, give 'em a car and let 'em go to a park, a restaurant, and bar or something along those lines.

They show that the dude, I will call him Mitch (for privacy's sake) an average looking dude with dark hair and an athletic build who works as a bouncer is going to be going on a date with a smokin' woman who looked a little like Carmen Electra. For privacy's sake, I'll call her Anita. She's a model who was featured in a VERY famous televised lingerie show with kazillions of viewers.

Anyway, the dude was a &*&^%$# pr*ck the whole night. He shows up an hour late, makes a comment like, "Damn, that's a short a%# skirt."

They get in the car, right away he says, "I've never been on a blind date...", she starts to say "Yeah, me neither...", but before she can FINISH the statement, HE says, "and I don't know if I will again." She looks at him, and goes "oh my gawd," but she is SMIRKING and totally turned on. She gives a playful roll of the eyes right.

Anyway, he busts her all night, she at one point says, "I think you're a di*&." He laughs, gets close to her, and says, "What you think...? You think...?" She says, "Okay, fine, you ARE a di**." He just laughs.

Later he says, among many similar type things, "I thought they would hook me up with someone who was pretty,"
- YES HE SAID THIS.

Later, when the date is almost over, she gets serious, and says, " You know I think you may have a little insecurity, you kind of take it too far sometimes, the teasing, and I don't like it." He smirks, looks away, and comes back with, "You know, I don't like sheep, women that just do what others do, so I had to see if you would stand up for yourself, be different and not be a pushover, and you have (stood up)."

She gives him a sultry look, bites her lower lip, and says, "So you do it on purpose?" (i.e. to see if a woman is up to your standard) and he says, "Well yeah, but also because I know women like it." She rolls her eyes again and smiles and licks her lips and says "yeah whatever" in a total I WANT YOU voice.

So they cut to the car ride home, in a taxi, and they're makin' out. Later they cut to the outside of the house as he is saying goodbye (he didn't go in, he is standing at her door) and he's like, "Hey, it was fun, maybe we can do it again." And she says, "You have my number, use it."

In the post date interview he says, "Once I saw that the girl was bangin', I knew, I knew, I couldn't be nice if I was going to get in with her, and yeah it worked." She says, "Yeah, he was a little rude, but I kinda like it when guys don't flatter me, I'll definitely go on a second date if he calls, but he needs to know the games will continue."

All I could say was, "Sh**... Sh**!!! ... Michael is right, oh man, dude is so friggin right." I said it out loud, only one in the room, it hit me that deeply. I realized how well it worked.

You said that even the "Paris Hilton" types try to act better than others but they have some insecurity issues of their own. And this guy played it perfect, he made her question whether she was all that cool or skinny or beautiful and it put the pressure on her to impress him.

She was the one trying to get his approval as the night went on, she didn't feel like she was a princess the way she would have around 99% of other guys. And right when she couldn't take it, or maybe she was just playing, it doesn't matter, he gave her a little self-esteem boost to let her know that she has passed some of his tests and is showing potential in meeting his standards.

So, in parting, much props to you man, you know what you're talkin' bout. And some curiosities were sparked from our phone conversation as it relates to being a "smart aleck":

You told me that the key is to determine if a girl is (culturally) "beautiful" (like a 9 or a 10) or not, because the gorgeous ones need to see you are superior in order for them to feel the boost, but the cute ones who are like 6, 7 and 8s on the 10 scale you can actually compliment them some (not their body) and smile a little and be more charming because they will appreciate the attention of a sincere guy.

So onto the questions:

1)Does the jerk approach only work with girls that are in the upper range, like the 9s and 10s? I mean, what if a girl is real conservative, or a small-town country girl, you know good values and stuff, maybe never had sex or like only with one guy that she dated for 6 years, maybe never dated anyone seriously, but she's also real hot, won't she have more respect for herself and be offended by the jerk approach?

2)Likewise, say a girl has been cheated on a bunch and dated about 10 jerks in her life. When she decides to "settle down," because she hears her biological clock ticking, won't she have learned that the jerks don't change and end up going for maybe a little bit older, overweight, financially secure guy that she will refer to as "her sweetie, who is so good to her," or something to that effect?

3)My opinion is that a two-pronged approach works best. Be the more intense busting type with women who know they're "commodities", and be a teasing charmer (like you were in the bookstore with the two women) with the girls who are a little more level-headed, what do you say?

I appreciate you making it through this long email.

***MY REPLY***

First of all, thanks for the awesome props on my material and on the coaching you received over the phone ( http://thedatingwizard.com/consultations.htm) And my congrats to you, for putting in the mental work and using the coaching to MAKE THE MENTAL JUMP TO HYPERSPACE. This is a MASSIVE step. Suddenly you see the whole world of women completely differently. It's going to hit you again and again in many more situations with women, each time it will be like a psychological tidal wave, and each time it will hit a DEEPER realization.

Your letter is especially worth noting because the girl was a genuine Electra-like "hot one" and that he was an average looking dude with an athletic build, in other words, his GAME is what brought him out on top.

And how did he ATTRACT this girl? Did he try to bring her CLOSER to him? No, as you clearly observed, he:

1."Was a &*&^%$# pr*ck the whole night."!

2. He shows up an hour late.

3. He is SEXUAL.
He ESTABLISHES A SEXUAL FRAME in a playful but naughty way that is not TOO over the board: "Damn, that's a short a%# skirt."

4. He TEASES her NON-MALICIOUSLY
and is GOOD at it so that she sees his superiority but also LAUGHS and feels GOOD.

He says, "I've never been on a blind date.." She starts to say, "Yeah, me neither..." but before she can finish the statement, he teases her with "And I don't know if I will again."

She looks at him and goes, "Oh my gawd," but she is smirking and totally turned ON.

5. When she TESTS his CONGRUENCY, he is CONSISTENT WITH HIS IMAGE AND DOES NOT MELT.

She tests him by saying, "I think you're a di*&".

He LAUGHS in response.

He gets close to her and says: "What you think...? you think...?"

This then forces her to say: "Okay, fine you ARE a d(*&."

He just responds with a LAUGH. CLEARLY he implies he does not need her, yet since the way he did it is funny, it's not coming across as a TOTAL JERK either.

This also prevents an argument, since he AGREES with her statement by reframing her "insult" as an actual COMPLIMENT.

Doing this is a sign of superiority which is attractive, and yet he did it in a way that is also funny to boot, which gets her in a more receptive mood to ALL his actions.

6. HE INTELLIGENTLY TEASES HER SOME MORE:
He later says, "I thought they would hook me up with someone who was pretty."

Keep in mind she is CLEARLY attractive, and thus would not be "ZAPPED" too hard by this, since she KNOWS she is PRETTY, she just now isn't so sure anymore that she is Heaven's gift to mankind. (By the way, I hate using numbers like 1 or 10 to indicate attraction levels, but in this medium of cyberspace these numbers often help us get to the point.)

7. HE KNOWS WHEN TO SHIFT GEARS.
When it's clear that he indeed has her attracted to him for quite a while, and she is obviously no longer testing him but being genuine when she tells him that his teasing is getting out of hand, he is NOT A TOTAL MORON, he GETS IT (the truth is, he should have gotten this a little sooner and eased up on the teasing, but at least he gets it when she POINTS IT OUT TO HIM, that's why I say he is not a total moron) and he realizes it's time "go a little more genuine and give her that validation, BECAUSE NOW SHE IS ACTUALLY ATTRACTED TO HIM, AND SO THEREFORE SHE ACTUALLY CRAVES HIS VALIDATION. BEFORE SHE WAS ATTRACTED, SHE COULD NOT CARE less about his validation.

So, now that he knows she VALUES his interest in her, he first off smirks in a SUPERIOR confident way, so that his next words will not sound as if he is justifying his behaviour, will not sound "wussish", and he REFRAMES all the prior teasing as HIM doing it all to QUALIFY HER, when he says, "You know, I don't like sheep, women that just do what others do, so I had to see if you would stand up for yourself, be different and not be a pushover and you have.(stood up for yourself)".

This was almost GENIUS, if perhaps accidental genius.

You see, he ALREADY made her attracted and made her feel those emotions toward him by the actions he did before, including the teasing, but he later RELABELS the same actions to serve a NEW purpose now: You see, she is ALREADY attracted, it doesn't matter if he now retroactively uses that previous stuff he did to accomplish a NEW goal: That goal is to now make her feel that she has been SELECTED, that she has passed his tests, which of course makes her fears of being labeled "easy" go away, for this is no "ordinary situation", it is now SPECIAL because she has EARNED his validation and she has passed HIS tests!!! He has made it seem like he will not just sleep with any woman, regardless of how attractive she is on the outside.

Ahhh, so now she can feel more TRUST and connection, as WELL as all the attraction.

As you described:
"She gives him a sultry look, bites her lower lip, and says "So you do it on purpose?" And he says, "Well yeah, but also because I know women like it."

I think he fumbled the ball a bit when he said, "Also because I know women like it", it sounds a bit wussish, but the truth is that even this "fumble" might have been advantageous, because he may have been SO AWESOMELY COOL in her mind AT THIS POINT, that it might have made HER feel that SHE was outclassed, so by lowering HIMSELF a bit, and seeming a BIT like he was seeking her and women's validation, it made him seem more REALISITIC, a bit vulnerable. A bit more IDENTIFIABLE, like any compelling character in a great movie.

I'd have to be there to observe how he said it, because the idea of saying he said it "because women like it" can actually work in a different way as well, almost in the opposite way but an attractive way nonetheless, it can make him seem to be real "bastard that women love" type, i.e. he is not emotionally hung up on the whole thing, he just does what works, ("women like it") which can be kind of attractive as well, since he clearly does not PERSONALLY feel that his self-esteem depends on her approval, he simply does what works.

The bottom line is that he took a problem and solved it by UNDERSTANDING intuitively what the situation needed. In other words:

8. HE CREATED JUST THE RIGHT AMOUNT OF SEXUAL TENSION, not too much not too little.

Which gets us to her, "Yeah whatever" in a total "I WANT YOU" type voice."

9. HE PHYSICALLY ESCALATED WHEN SHE WAS COMFORTABLE ENOUGH FOR IT:
"So they cut to the car ride home, in a taxi, and they're makin' out."

He didn't act like he was not a sexual being, he made it CLEAR and he ESCALATED physically, and he didn't do it too early, but he certainly didn't wait for the date to be over before taking action.

10. HE ENDS OFF BY SHOWING HER HE ACTUALLY LIKES HER SINCE AFTER ALL SHE NOW CLEARLY WANTS HIM. HE LEAVES HER WITH HOPE.

He says, "Hey, it was fun, maybe we can do it again." She of course responds, "You have my number, use it."

11. SHE VERIFIES THAT HE IS RIGHT ON TARGET.
She tells the interviewer, "I kinda like it when guys don't flatter me, I'll definitely go on a second date if he calls, but he needs to know the games will continue."

I repeat:
"I kinda like it when guys don't flatter me."

And:
SHE LIKES THE GAMES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So, your reading of the situation is right on.

As I said, even the hot "Paris Hilton" types try to act better than others but they have some insecurity issues of their own. In fact, I personally am attracted to girls who are MORE secure because they tend to be more emotionally stable and play less games, but these emotionally secure girls are EXTREMELY rare.

Anyway, as you clearly understood, this dude "played it perfect, he made her question whether she was all that cool or skinny or hot and it put the pressure on her to impress him. She was the one trying to get his approval as the night went on, she didn't feel like she was a princess the way she would have around 99% of other guys.

And right when she couldn't take it, or maybe she was just playing, it doesn't matter, he gave her a little self-esteem boost by validating her, to let her know that she has passed some of HIS tests and is showing potential in meeting his standards."

Bravo.

And remember, all the while he is still keeping her laughing so he is never seeming bitter or inferior and plus the laughing keeps the mood and the atmosphere FUN.

And finally, to answer your questions:

"Does the jerk approach only work with girls that are in the upper range, like the 9s and 10s? I mean, what if a girl is real conservative, or a small-town country girl, you know good values and stuff, maybe never had sex or like 1 time with a guy that she dated for 6 years, maybe never dated anyone seriously, but she's also real hot, won't she have more respect for herself and be offended by the jerk approach?"

>>>MY ANSWER<<<

The answer is that definitely for the 9's 10's, in general you have to shake up their reality and make them feel the challenge to their "identity of superiority", make them work to try to get YOU to validate THEM. And of course, the very fact they are TRYING to get you to validate them is proof of attraction. It IS attraction.

If she is really conservative, small town, etc, it's POSSIBLE she MIGHT be a candidate for a slightly softer approach, but still, not as "soft" as you might think. These women know the score, and they get "spoiled" fast. So you have to CALIBRATE, (measure the degree to how hard/easy you have to go) by testing her reactions to things, reading her reactions to things such as what you say and do. You get better at this with experience.

Your second question:

"Likewise, say a girl has been cheated on a bunch and dated about 10 jerks in her life. When she decides to "settle down," because she hears her biological clock ticking, won't she have learned that the jerks don't change and end up going for maybe a llittle bit older, overweight, financially secure guy that she will refer to as "her sweetie, who is so good to her," or something to that effect?"

>>>MY ANSWER<<<

Ahhhh yes, very very often, AFTER SHE HAS been with ten thousand guys and run the party circuit to the ground and she is no longer a prime commodity.

(okay I'm exaggerating a bit for comedy effect here, but I want to make a point) and she has been SUPPOSEDLY "hurt and dumped" and the jerks would never have her, she "gets smart" (she was "smart" ALL ALONG, in fact that's why she only "got smart" when her looks were fading and her biological clock started ticking), and she goes for the "nicer guy" that you described because that is what she NEEDS to settle down, because the other jerky fun guys would NEVER settle down with her, especially because these guys sense the FULL EXTENT OF THE TRUTH about her since THEY WERE THE TYPES OF GUYS she was with.

So of course these guys can't be fooled and aren't about to give SECURITY and RESPECT and COMMITMENT to a girl like that.

So these women have to find a "nice" naive guy to take advantage of, and who will act SO HAPPY to be with her. Almost makes you puke, huh? Yeah, me too. Or it used to, to be accurate.

This is why it's SO IMPORTANT TO HAVE THE SKILLS, even if you are NOT a player.

It's like being in shape, you don't have to be in shape because you are planning on some emergency. Being in shape just helps you do everything better.

Similarly, having the skills with women will make your interactions with all women better, it will help you avoid the wrong women, and help you seriously attract the kind of woman you are interested in when you do meet her.

It helps you SENSE what's really going on so you can know the difference between a good girl and a girl who is PRETENDING to be one.

Your skills enable you to DETECT this kind of stuff a lot better than your average joe. And of course, since the skills make you far more attractive, you will not be so easily used by any woman, in the skills help you make a woman WANT to treat you well on her own accord.

Your final question:

"My opinion is that a two-pronged approach works best. Be the more intense busting type with women who know they're "commodities", and be a teasing charmer (like you were in the bookstore with the two women) with the girls who are a little more level-headed, what do you say?"

>>>MY ANSWER<<<

It's all about how DESIRABLE the girl thinks YOU are and also how she feels about HERSELF.

So to a girl who doesn't think she is so great, (but keep in mind that most girls think they are SUPERIOR to most guys, especially guys without the skills) then this lower self esteem girl will feel that a guy who IS more of a "nice guy" to be more valuable than a guy who is a massive smartaleck because she feels the smartaleck IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR HER TO GET, therefore she CUTS OFF IN HER MIND THE POSSIBILITY OF BEING WITH HIM, so she doesn't feel ANYthing for him.

A woman with lower self esteem doesn't feel "challenged" by a guy who is cool, she feels STOMPED ON.

It's like a woman who is a 10 being MEAN to a total nerd.

The nerd doesn't feel challenged, he feels horrible.

But if she was NICE to him, he feels maybe it's possible.

So it's all about calibrating the woman in front of you and knowing WHEN to use WHAT.

And if you would like to make that GIANT leap into a whole new DIMENSION of success with women and dating, then you owe it to yourself to take action NOW and get the most ADVANCED resource on the PLANET at your fingertips with my Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship Program:

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Then, the next step in your game is to APPLY all you have learned in my most INTENSE, learning-rich environment: BOOTCAMP.

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And if you haven't yet downloaded my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women, then do that IMMEDIATELY. This book is about how to get results by taking ADVANTAGE of your NATURAL masculine self, instead of trying to HIDE it. Women actually DESIRE this, they just can't tell you out loud!

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If you don't take action, and remain without the skills, there will be plenty of folks happy to KEEP YOU IN THAT SITUATION, because it makes them feel good to have someone they can feel superior toward. So you have to ask yourself what YOU want, not what they want.

It's up to you to change your life.

Till next time,

The Dating Wizard
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