Average Guy With A Super Hottie - 6 Ways To Tell If You're Him

All too often in the world of dating advice we focus on how to fix what's going wrong. As a change of pace this time around, let's consider how life looks through the eyes of a guy who is doing something RIGHT.

If you are basically a rock star who looks like a GQ model, then this particular article isn't for you (or perhaps you can use this for the now-dreaded "entertainment purposes only").

Whatever. Most of us aren't that guy, so on with it.

Here's the question du jour: Suppose you are a fairly average dude. How exactly do you know that you are in the company of a world-class "hottie"? Well, the obvious answer is, "Who cares? What's important is that you like her." And that's all true, but it doesn't make for a particularly interesting read.

So here below--cast to the wind with reckless abandon--is my personally-crafted list of a half-dozen distinct ways you can tell for sure the aforementioned phenomenon is going on:

1) FIRST CLASS TREATMENT

It's like you woke up famous or something. But you didn't. It's not you, it's her. Everywhere you go you are getting the freakin' "red carpet" rolled out for you. People-men and women-are going out of their way to do special things for BOTH of you. This is pretty much the ultimate manifestation of social proof. Among the effects of this I've personally encountered are free drinks, front-row seats, airline upgrades, special discounts and "backstage passes". Often, if this particular phenomenon doesn't present itself it's because the proverbial pendulum has swung the opposite way, and...

2) ...PEOPLE YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW HATE YOU FOR NO REASON

Well, yeah...there actually is a reason. And-once again--it's her. And others are just jealous, of course. You can expect the "FU" look from a lot of men. Don't take it personally. They wish they were you, that's all. Never mind that with an attitude like theirs they likely will NEVER BE "you", that's another newsletter. Interestingly, when you are met with disgust by other women for no real reason, it's often because THEY wish they were HER...which can be a nice feeling if you let it be. Then again, it's equally as likely that they are as envious of her persona as they are of her male companionship. Nah...that can't be, can it?

3) MEN LOOK--A LOT--EVEN WHEN THEY'RE WITH A WOMAN

Ever get the feeling you were being watched? She has...a lot. And you're about to share the experience. Men are pretty much shameless, often blatantly snapping their heads around with an audible "Day-um". Of course, some guys will even do this when they have a woman standing right next to them. It's nuts. Some guys with highly evolved confidence levels of their own will acknowledge your good fortune either with a thumbs up or a "nice job, dude". Usually, these are the same guys who do well with women themselves (and there's a lesson there).

4) PEOPLE CHALLENGE WHY SHE'S WITH YOU

They could be complete strangers. Then again, they could be your "friends". Whoever "they" are, they will come right out and ask the woman you are with why she's with a guy like you. The direct version of this gambit plays out with questions like, "What do you see in this guy?" or "What's a woman like YOU doing with a guy like HIM?" Indirect iterations would include, "So how did YOU TWO ever meet each other?" or "So how do you know each other?...I'm assuming you aren't dating."

5) GUYS HIT ON HER AS SOON AS YOU STEP AWAY FOR A MINUTE

All you did was excuse yourself to the men's room. But when you come back, some guy is chatting her up. Get used to it, that's the law of the jungle. Always be gracious in these situations. Don't be jealous or lose your cool...remember she's with you and it will likely stay that way as long as you can continue to be a man and separate yourself from the likes of men who do needy, tasteless stuff like, oh...hit on other dude's women as soon as they excuse themselves to the restroom. But heads up-it's not just the guys who are interested because...

6) ...EVEN OTHER WOMEN FLIRT WITH HER This is the wildest thing to witness I can think of, and by far the most stunning dynamic of the five I listed. You can be in a bar, a club, a restaurant or even an airport for that matter. Other women will behave in a decidedly flirtatious manner towards the woman you are with. The first few times this happens, you'll be in a state of suspended disbelief. But there's no doubt. Typically, she's getting flirted with by women more than YOU get flirted with by women. The crazy part about that last part is that women are likely flirting with you TEN TIMES as much as usual simply because you are with her...and this bullet point is STILL true. And I almost forgot...you'll actually get hit on by "lifestyle" couples quite a bit also-especially if the two of you are affectionate. The woman in such a couple will almost invariably initiate those situations, I've learned.

You may experience a scenario like unto one of the examples above, or all six. Moreover, stuff like this could happen once or twice on occasion or practically constantly. Even if one such event occurs, you probably have all the evidence you need that you are in fact an average guy with a "super hottie". And if you find that ALL OF THE ABOVE happen with some regularity, then feel free to calibrate the truth of the matter accordingly. Whether it all is rather enjoyable to you or irritating to no end is a personal decision. Choose wisely.

Got stories of your own? Additions to the list? Think I've got it all wrong? E-mail your thoughts to scot@datetoorder.com.

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