Being on the Team - Becoming Better Friends

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	Being on the Team - Becoming Better Friends by Jaci Rae Men tend to need physical contact to verify their relationships, while women tend to need an emotional connection to validate theirs. Men need that tactile moment that will break the emotional barrier for them and women need emotional stimulation to break the ice with them. Men are more visual and women are more auditory. You can see the conflict that arises and why it seems harder for men to create a friendship with a woman than visa versa. For the visual person it can be hard. Even if you are a visual person and cannot change your initial reaction to external stimuli, you can become a seeker of emotional intimacy before you dive into the physical realm. To help achieve emotional intimacy, thereby becoming a better friend, you need to nurture your partner's soul by honoring him / her and validating who your partner is. Here are a few ways to do that: Open the door for your partner. Pull the chair out for your partner. Help your partner put their coat on. Go to an important event that celebrates your partner, such as a game or a party. For men, surprise her by cleaning the bathroom or doing other household chores without any outside prompting. For women (assuming you know about cars and how to fix them and your partner isn't a car freak), why not change the oil as a surprise or cut the lawn? Take an interest in a hobby that your partner loves, even if you don't find it appealing. Involve your partner in things that you normally wouldn't include him / her in. Compliment your partner often. Stay in bed with your partner in the morning, gently running your hands across his / her body and watching your partner wake up. This will send a message that you find your partner very attractive and you will go all the way to the end zone with this maneuver! It's very sexy! Include your partner in the things that you love to do. This will foster an emotional bonding and will make your partner feel that he / she is important enough in your life to share in the things that you love to do. Touch your partner in non-sexual ways: caress his / her arm, rub his / her shoulders or simply hold his / her hand. Ask your partner opinion on things that are important to you. Have a conversation about life, politics (assuming that you are on the same page as your partner is; otherwise, steer clear of these waters if you aren't on stable ground), friendship and family. These are just a very few things that you can do to deepen your friendship with your partner. Read books and study other relationships to find other ways to become more open about your feelings. Jaci Rae ©2006 Jaci Rae's grit and determination brought her from a poor childhood to a successful singer and performer who tours around the world. She is the recipient of the "Female Vocalist of the Year" award at the Golden Music Awards in Nashville, TN as well as a Barnes and Noble and Amazon #1 Best seller of Winning Points with the Woman in Your Life One Touchdown at a Time (Simon and Schuster). Jaci spends her spare time working on her music, writing and hanging out with family and friends. She is also on the dating team of Savvymiss.com and is a relationship advisor for loveisgreat.com. For more information, go to http://www.winningromance.com About.com Dating Guide has just put Jaci's book, Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown At A Time in the top six of all time dating / relationship books. http://dating.about.com/od/datingadvice/ss/RelateBooks_6.htm Show All Articles By Jaci Rae How To Guarantee a Lifetime of Love Fall in love again Remember how great it felt when you were falling in love? You can get that back when you do the exercise explained in chapter 4. When you visit those special memories from the beginning of your relationship then share with each other how good it feels to relive those experiences, you will begin to feel what I like to call the "in-love-sparkles" once again . And you can use this process any time you notice the love slipping out of number one position. Remember, when you're "in love" everything else you do is brighter and more enjoyable. Are you still having fun? One thing I've noticed about relationships and this love thing is that happy relationships aren't filled with lovey-dovey, smoochy, romance stuff...at least not all the time. Those couples who are obviously in love after years of being married don't live the lives we read about in novels or see in movies. Nope, that's not it at all. What's holding them together is that they're having fun. Yes, I said fun. Love Play is the real glue. Simply put, they like being with each other. Remember when you two were first together? You laughed with each other, you played, you planned activities and looked forward to being together. Sure, the romance was there and certainly the sexy stuff got your attention, but the thing that made you realize that he was "the one" was that you had fun together. You truly enjoyed each other's company and it didn't really matter what you did. You can bring back the fun and playfulness that you enjoyed when you were falling in love. How To Guarantee a Lifetime of Love will teach you a variety of steps, tools, techniques, and strategies so you can easily incorporate them into your relationship. As you do so you'll notice improvements right away. You'll start to fall in love all over again, your intimacy will deepen, and you'll become more bonded than ever before. It's easier than you might imagine and the benefits really will last a lifetime. You Get Two eBooks For The Price Of One! 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