Cunnilingus - it can be a daunting task for an amateur. So how can you go from being Average Joe to an oral Pro? Learn what separates the two.

What Joe does: First, Joe makes a bee line for the clit. He either just learned what it is and can't wait to try it out, or he is trying to get her going as fast as he can so he can get up in there. It may get her off, but there's no real wow factor.

However, Joe takes some risks if he tries to impress. He has heard that teasing a woman makes her cum harder, but that's as well versed as he is in the female orgasm. Level 2 Joe makes the worst mistake a man can make - he quits right as she is on the brink of getting off. This does not make her cum harder; this makes her stop cumming all together. It takes a lot of work for a woman to reach orgasm, so if you send her back to Go without letting her collect the proverbial $200, it's doghouse-city for you, buddy.

What the Pro does: The Pro takes his time, making it about the sensual experience in its entirety, not just the cunnilingus. He spends time with her breasts, licking and sucking her nipples. Women have varying degrees of sensitivity in their nipples. Some have next to none, while others have reported orgasms simply through breast feeding. For the most part, stimulation of the nipples is like a direct line to the clitoris.

Next the Pro will move to the belly, kissing around her navel. He moves to the inner thighs, brushing his lips across the highly sensitive skin. If the nipples were properly stimulated before, the breath near that area, or the accidental brush with his nose, can get her almost overwhelmingly hot before his tongue even grazes the clit.

The Pro not only knows where the clit is located, but he knows how to work it. It is important to move the vaginal lips aside in order to properly access the clit. The clitoris is oblong and smooth, and it looks like it sort of opens up into the vulva. The part where it opens up is the money spot. More specifically, the upper left-hand part of this money spot is the jackpot spot. There is a highly concentrated grouping of nerve endings that, when properly stimulated will send her to la-la land in under two minutes.

The most important thing the Pro knows is when to tease and when to please. He knows his partner well enough to know at which point he needs to stop beating around the bush, so to speak, and just finish her off. Until you master this - and it varies with each woman, so it requires getting to know her specifically - don't stray from the clit once you're there. Otherwise, you better hope she's not wearing stilettos when she kicks you in the kidney.

Michael Webb
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