Handling Visitation When You're Divorced
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Len Stauffenger I'm afraid way too many dads take a hit when it comes to getting visitation. It's entirely possible that their previous behavior earned them what their wives are dishing out now. It's also possible that their previous behavior was not deserving of what their wives are now dishing out. Either way, the focus here needs to be pointed to what is the pivotal point: visitation isn't about the parents - it's about the children. Children need both parents unless one of them is harmful to the child. They need to know that they were not to blame for the divorce. They need to know that even if one parent is no longer living with the child, that parent still thinks about them, cares about them, and loves them. Visitation is a right authorized by the Courts at the time of the divorce. Unless specified by the Court, one spouse does not have the right to overrule this Court decision without the Court's approval. If your ex is not adhering to the Court's ruling, go back to Court and get the details clarified. It's your right and it's the right of your children. If your ex is withholding your right to visit your children, advise the police. Don't hesitate. If you wait, by the time you eventually do get back into Court, the judge will think you don't care. This is not about harming your ex: it's about your children and their right to have their mommy or daddy in their life. If your ex is planning to move, advise your attorney immediately to take the required steps. Relocation is much easier to put a halt to before they move than after, so RUN to your attorney the moment this rears it's head. Your children deserve the continuity of both parent's presence and love. Be considerate of grandparents and caregivers regarding visitation when you're getting a divorce. It's for the children, remember? They've formed bonds with these folks in their lives and they deserve to have that continue uninterrupted. Here are some great points from www.findlaw.com about the best interests of the child for your information and advice. What Factors Determine the Child's "Best Interest"? Although the "best interest" standard can be hard to define in some situations, some factors are common in "best interest" analysis in most custody situations:
When you make visitation decisions, you should only decide that which aids the well-being of your children. They deserve to enjoy both their mom and their dad. Please make your decisions so that the welfare of your child's growing up years is happy, secure and stable? Do that. Anything else, avoid that. Article Source: EzineArticles.com/?expert=Len_Stauffenger Len Stauffenger©2008 In his book "Getting Over It: Wisdom for Divorced Parents," Len Stauffenger shares his simple wisdom gleaned from his divorce with his daughters and with you. Len is a Success Coach and an Attorney. You can purchase Len's book and it's accompanying workbook at http://www.wisdomfordivorcedparents.com Show All Articles By Len StauffengerThe Ultimate Orgasm and Ejaculation Control Manual
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