You'll really understand if someone loves you or not in the hard times. This can be applied to all cases, not only when you examine the behavior of the person you love, even though their case is the most important for you.

When things are following their normal sequence, everyone can be nice, pretend many things, bear many things, do things they dislike, and still continue behaving as if they were fine, but when they have to face a problematic situation they cannot pretend for too long, and this is when they reveal who they really are.

When they don't have the same security they had before, when a serious problem obliges them to accept doing many things that they were not expecting to have to do, and they suddenly have to answer to the unexpected challenges of life, only then they unavoidably reveal their true character and their deeper feelings.

Of course, you want to learn who the person you love really is before having to face difficult moments with them, and you even hope that you won't have to ever face any problems together, so how can you see in practice who they are when you need their support?

Make a test. Tell them that you have a certain quite serious problem, and examine their reaction. Wait until you can examine their behavior very well.

Don't ever tell them that this was a test, because they won't trust you after that. You have to find something that can be corrected, or that you will be able to eliminate later, saying that it was a mistake and fortunately the problem doesn't exist.

Examine their reaction later too.

Depending on the attention that they will give to you, on how much they will care about your feelings and help you in this situation, you'll be able to verify if they really love you, or if their love is superficial and they only want to have your company for certain reasons.

If you are patient, you'll be able to verify the truth in your daily life, without having to create an imaginary problem that will later be automatically solved, because it will be only a test, or you may remember various revealing situations in the past, now that you have learned that by examining their behavior you can understand if they really love you or not.

Don't make them suffer with your test, otherwise you will be the one that will reveal your lack of love. You have to have pity on them, the same way that you want to see that they have always pity on you and they never have the courage to make you suffer, for any reason.

You only want to observe their behavior and see their reaction to a problem. So, be intelligent and think about something that will be revealing without being tragic, and then pay attention to all the details.

If they care only about their interests, their programs, their plans, their image, etc., and they abandon you instead of helping you solve your problem, then you had better look for another partner.

They will prove to you that they really love you only if they really care for your feelings and if they help you in your life.

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