What I'm about to speak about is so important, it should be considered a PREREQUISITE before you do ANTHING else with women.

The first thing to let soak into your SOUL is the fact that time is LIMITED for EVERY human being on this earth.

The reason this is so important to realize is that, as kids, we never consider this, so although it's nice to not wallow in morbid thoughts, you have to also realize that NOT being cognizant of time leads to massive WASTING of time.

Now, although I definitely believe that you should strive to be INTERNALLY validated and not rely on EXTERNAL things for your sense of fulfillment, I also believe that going for your goals with everything you've got is a great way to live.

And so if you have particular goals regarding your life with women, whether it's to find one awesome woman or to date tons of women, or both, the point is that the JOURNEY to your goal is just as important as the actual fulfillment of that goal, because as I have explicitly said before, you ARE what you THINK AND DO.

So, if you are NOT going for the things you care about, then chances are you are spending your time on things you don't care about, which puts you in a less upbeat, passionate, resourceful mood, and it makes you less productive, etc.

So you have two choices- go for what you want, and feel good no matter what, because you are what you think and do, or don't go for what you want, and you are screwed no matter what, because of the crappy state of mind THAT does for you.

Pretty simple, actually.
Except for one thing:
Ego.

So you see, the greatest obstacle that is holding guys back from getting the life they want with the woman or women of their choice, is an obstacle even MORE FORMIDABLE than lacking insight, knowledge, or practice.

Yes, insight, knowledge, practice, ARE CRUCIAL for success, there's no way around that. But in order to GET that knowledge, insight, and practice, you have to be willing to put in the EFFORT of TOTAL COMMITMENT.

And that requires not being overwhelmed by fear of "failure".

You have to be willing to take a LEAP OF FAITH. No matter how PRECISE I explain everything, at some point you still have to take a leap of faith or you won't take ACTION.

If a guy does not do that, it's not because he is afraid of the woman BEATING him up. He knows approaching women will not PHYSICALLY hurt. He knows learning about women will not PHYSICALLY hurt.

The fear actually that a guy has is that something, from his perspective, FAR WORSE might happen.

The FEAR that he might find out that all his efforts were a waste of time. The FEAR that he really CAN'T succeed no matter what.

The fear that he might somehow be a LOSER.
The fear that he might somehow not be COOL.

The fear that he might CONFIRM his worst fears - that he is not desirable.

These are DEEP SEATED fears that make SENSE in a way from an evolutionary perspective.

Not so much that evolution designed you to be afraid of not succeeding with women per se, but rather that evolution designed your brain and body to SHUT down if your brain believed there was no POINT to going on. Kinda makes sense, like those machines that turn themselves off when not in use.

After all, if your BRAIN registers the thought that you really are UNDESIRABLE, then that is the same as saying you have no worth. And so if your brain BELIEVES that, then there is no POINT in going on and expending energy.

So everything SHUTS down emotionally. And THAT of course CAN lead to all sorts of problems and even physical pain.

So it makes sense that a guy wants to AVOID experiencing that feeling of total shutdown. It's something we want to avoid AT ALL COSTS actually, considering we were designed to SURVIVE.

So that shutdown thing is really the very LAST resort of the mind and body. To stay away from this, our mind associates it with really negative emotions, like depression, so we stay away from it, we want to avoid it like hell. We don't care about the long term, we just want to avoid it NOW.

So we avoid the situations that can TRIGGER that emotion.

The EGO is a really, really, really, REALLY powerful force. It can be used for greatness, it can change entire civilizations, it can also unfortunately be used intentionally or unintentionally for horrifying evil.

So what I am here to tell you is that we don't have TIME for a fragile ego.

A fragile ego will ultimately experience MORE pain. Yup, all that FOCUS on trying to avoid ANYTHING that might "hurt" the ego results in a life that is pretty painful. Especially once you realize that your ego is really not as fragile as you think it is, IF you know how to look at things and IF you know how to develop yourself, which is just one of the crucial areas I focus on in my materials.

Trust me, I am NOT saying to lose your sensitivity to the well-being of your fellow human beings AND to the well being of yourSELF.

Sensitivity is a GREAT thing for being able to create super-solid rapport and any quality long term success with women and in fact with anyone in any type of relationship. It's also good for knowing what's good for you, MOST of the time, IF that sensitivity hasn't become TOO sensitive.

What you MUST lose is the weakness in your ego.

The irony is that the BEST way to get GREAT with women is through HUMILITY. NO, I don't mean to be self-deprecating. What I mean is to realize that NO ONE is superior to anyone, including yourself.

That way, you will not feel that learning about the deepest levels of attraction, pick-up, bonding, etc, is something BENEATH you.

You will not feel INSULTED that a woman did not do CARTWHEELS for you just because you approached her.

Her reactions to you have NOTHING to do with your intrinsic value.

THIS attitude will allow you to SOAK in all the LEARNING POTENTIAL in every situation. You will REMOVE your ego from the situation. And if you do need to protect your ego, you can simply realize that VALUE is something we humans pretty much arbitrarily assign. In some parts of the world, women that don't have MUSTACHES are considered so UNATTRACTIVE, that they PAINT mustaches on them so a man will want to be with them!!!!!

If a rockstar went to place that didn't appreciate rock music or even recognize him, he wouldn't get the time of day.

VALUE IS SO ARBITRARY, it's CRAZY.

It's funny, I saw this horrible movie called Jackass, but the only cool thing I took from it was that stuff that is gross and repulsive and insane to many people is actually COOL to others. In fact, they looked at the gross stuff as cool because it was gross.

So you have to TAKE YOUR EGO out of this. It's not even ABOUT who is ACTUALLY SUPERIOR.

As I've said before, it's only about how women FEEEEL a guy is superior, which is something you can LEARN.

In fact, the greatest first step of learning about attraction should be learning that LEARNING is the ONLY thing that is of VALUE.

So, if you are a big believer in LEARNING, you are a winner. If you don't believe in learning, THEN perhaps you are not so cool, because you are shutting out all your potential.

Let me get back to TIME:

So, every second you waste NOT learning because of a fragile and weak ego, you are having LESS TIME to get GOOD and DEVELOP these skills.

Let me get back to EGO:
Every time you let your EGO hold you back, every time you say to yourself "I feel stupid doing this" you are PREVENTING yourself from getting RESULTS.

For example, let's say you are in an environment that is a party/club/happy style environment, (and the truth is, you should strive to make ALL environments INTO party environments when you are dealing with women, which is an art in itself that I focus on in my materials as well) and the women out are there to have a good time, and you are saying to yourself, "I can't let myself get into a good mood, I don't want to look silly and get made fun of", or whatever other fears you have, what you are really saying then is:

"My ego won't let me get what I REALLY want! It won't allow me to even TAKE A CHANCE, because it wants to AVOID ANY PAIN at ANY cost, even if that cost is my OWN HAPPINESS! I'd rather be "somewhat secure" than actually be ECSTATIC with the woman of my dreams!"

Hey man, it's YOUR ego! You have to control it, tell it goodbye. Show your ego the door, and EMBRACE THE STATES OF MIND that I describe are critical for success with women. Masculinity, leadership, sexuality, sense of confident humor, genuine interest in the person, and much more.

Of course, if you do this, your ego will actually THANK you for it later, because as you actually GET RESULTS, your ego will be that much more secure, in addition to knowing that you actually were OKAY even had things NOT turned out so great with great results. You WILL get the results, but what's JUST as cool is the sense of emotional security that you are no longer NEEDY for results either.

Now that you understand the relationship between ego, time, and your results with women, there is one more thing I want to leave you with for today.

ATTITUDE.

Yeah, I know, you hear about this a lot from everywhere.

The thing is, there is the "right attitude" and then there is the ONLY ATTITUDE.

Everyone out there who tells you "have a good attitude" is full of it.

You must have an INSANELY UNSTOPPABLE ATTITUDE. Good attitude is not enough.

Why do I use the words, "INSANELY UNSTOPPABLE"?

Because the truth is, if you want to achieve MASTERY in this field, you have to be ready for when you are going to be thrown SUPER hurdles. You are going to have women TEST THE BEJEEPERS out of you. You are going to get your ego TACKLED.

And yet, if you STICK WITH IT, you are going to get GOOD. Real damn good.

And then what's going to happen, is, you are going to meet some AWESOME woman, who is EVERYTHING, she is going to be hot, she is going to be FUN, she is going to be SMART, she is going to be well-balanced, she is even going to be really really GIVING yet sexy and confident and flirty and challenging to just the right degree with you as well.

And THEN, my friend, you are going to have to grab the tiger by the tail.

Will you be ready?
She is going to be unleashing her ENERGY, naturally. Is it going to OVERWHELM you?

You are going to have to PREPARE for that.

A window of opportunity will OPEN. You are going to have to jump in and TAKE that opportunity and be ready to HANDLE it FULL BLAST all the way.

And she is not going to be a b***h, but you are going to have to deal with things that come up, like the fact that every other guy wants her too. Are you going to buckle? Are you going to get jealous? Are you going to BE THE MAN? Are you going to still GROW as a person and have your passions and interests, (and I mean REALLY follow your passions and interests) or will she consume your mind and emotions? Are you going to still have your wit and sense of humor and leadership? Are you going to be secure, knowing that tons of women want you, or will you suddenly start doubting yourself? Will you sabotage your own relationship out of insecurity?

And even if you don't pass with that woman, you will continue to develop and get better, and then, another window will eventually open with another great woman, but will you be READY? Will you have the right attitude?

So attitude is not just CRITICAL for GETTING a great woman, but also for KEEPING her, because there WILL be challenges that you will have to be PREPARED for.

And if you are SERIOUS about getting the most POWERFUL edge you can get in this area called "attraction, dating, and women", then you would have to be out of your mind not to soak in every last detail of the work that I have spent the last three YEARS on:

The Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship Program.

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