The Emotion Of Power

The most addictive emotion is the emotion of POWER. It's actually more powerful than sex. In fact, people feel MOST sexually turned on when it's combined with feelings of empowerment. This is why when you are with a woman you feel is PRECIOUS, then even the slightest TOUCH she gives you feels a TRILLION times more powerful than the "expert" touch of someone who you are less attracted to.

Why is this? It's because those feelings of SUPERIOR VALUE you have regarding this woman are now TRANSFERRED back to you to a degree, since SHE is touching YOU. So you suddenly feel AWESOME about yourself. You feel like a MILLION BUCKS. You feel like you can do ANYTHING. When sexuality combines with these feelings of empowerment, sex is INSANELY good and you also feel way better about yourself as well.

It's like a DRUG, but INFINITELY more powerful. The release of these chemicals when you feel this way is intoxicating, it opens up the pathways to your resourcefulness, creativity, to your courage, and much much more.

The most REVOLUTIONARY thing that I discovered is that sex is really not about sex. Even the most raunchy, porno-style sex, is still not just about sex. What makes sex powerful is all the feelings of empowerment and of self-esteem you think you are getting out of it. And there is nothing wrong with having these feelings, I'm not here at ALL to say that you should not enjoy these feelings that make sex so awesome. It's quite the rush.

What I want to say though is that if you want to ATTRACT a woman, the goal is to make HER feel those emotions as well. And one CRITICAL component of making her feel this way so that she gets that rush involves you RADIATING AN AURA OF POWER.

And you need to convey this to her EMOTIONS, not to her INTELLECT. She must FEEL you radiate power, it's meaningless if she "knows" you radiate power. Rather, she must FEEL it emotionally.

This is a SURVIVAL thing. We cannot HELP but react to this. That's why you hear guys saying stuff like "she was so hot, you could FEEL the POWER she was releasing." What's interesting is that even for MEN, the truth is that a woman's sexiness is MASSIVELY ENHANCED by factors we are not even conscious of- which are all the attractive BEHAVIOURS that women have perfected over thousands of years. Think it's all a coincidence that women, who are the physically weaker gender, simultaneously developed the greater powers of seduction?

They did this because they HAD to. Neccessity is the mother of invention.

So a lot of what you think is a woman's "hotness" is actually NOT just about her looks. You THINK it's only her looks, and in fact ultimately you actually DO feel her LOOKS are sexier, but you don't realize this is a result of her seductive ability.

Women's powers of seduction through their behaviours and through their sense of fashion and style make them seem far more attractive than they really are.

And hey, let's give credit where credit is due. Most women, not all women, but most women are great at this stuff. At the same time, women are kind of trained to do this from birth, so it's not as cool as having to learn it from scratch.

Creating attraction is the ULTIMATE art. And a lot of it involves creating the aura of superior worth and power. Remember that power is not just physical strength, it's the ability to create EMOTIONAL IMPACT.

And now that women have equality as well, the scales have totally tipped over and women actually have superiority over most men, something that doesn't have to be this way, but is for most clueless guys. And thus, men are getting their asses kicked. Men HAVE to learn how to amplify their impact, or they will continue to do what they have been doing in recent decades: COMING ACROSS WITH AN AURA OF LESS POWER THAN WOMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So, let's talk a bit about how to increase the aura of POWER you are releasing:

1. Your VOICE. This is so key, and yet guys let it go by as if it's nothing. There are many elements to this point, but the first thing is simply your VOLUME.

Sounds simple?
It isn't as simple as it sounds.

When you feel you are NOT a leader, when the words you have to say are NOT worthy, and when you feel that your words might be laughed at or rejected, or when you feel that your words are not CRUCIAL to be HEARD, you tend to NOT SPEAK LOUD ENOUGH.

Because that way, people can't make FUN of you as much since after all, it's not like even YOU really believed in those words anyway, right? It's giving yourself a BACK DOOR escape in case you're UNWORTHY.

No more back doors, buddy.
That stuff is over.

You're going to FACE THE MUSIC and COMMIT to the words you are going to say. And if they SEEM "dumb" or "unworthy" to anyone, SO BE IT. That's their problem, not yours. Because I can guarantee you that the OTHER option of using the back door technique will RUIN the impact of everything you say, even if it's GENIUS stuff. And the crazy thing is that often even IDIOTS sound like genius when they commit to what they say. Of course, when you have BOTH actual worth AND you say it with total commitment, you are really in the stratosphere level of results.

Remember also, that loud does not mean UPTIGHT. You can be totally cool and in control and in a great mood and still be loud enough. Of course also keep in mind the dynamics of the location, i.e. club vs. library or supermarket vs. street.

The WAY you use your voice, and not just the volume, COUNTS. You can use your voice with such a totally calm and soothing tonality that it is HYPNOTIC.

Forget all the b.s. "hypnosis" tactics with watching the watch swinging back and forth. You want some REAL hypnosis? Use the power of your VOICE. You can put a woman into a trance simply by the super calm and soothing sound of your voice. It can be ADDICTIVE.

But you need to learn to totally relax in order to do this. I know guys who are SO MESSED UP, but from their voice they sound so totally in control of their lives, they sound so calm, and it's totally powerful when they do pick up on women.

It simply FEEELS AWESOME.
It's ATTRACTIVE.
And that's what people want.
They want to FEEL GOOD.

And this "hypnotic" effect is just ONE example of how to use your voice. Your voice can be used to do a ton of other things as well, from implying humor to being intriguing and mysterious.

3. THE NOT FUNNY LAUGHTER:

Become CONSCIOUS of how often you are laughing out of discomfort rather than laughing because something was FUNNY. And STOP it.

When you are chatting to a woman, notice how often you are laughing because what she said is actually funny, or is it because it is nervous laughter. Also, notice if you are laughing at your own jokes.

If something isn't funny, and the woman is hot, then most likely the reason you are laughing is because you are TRYING TOO HARD to bridge the gap with the other person. You are instinctively feeling inferior and that she is superior and that you want her to feel that you LIKE her. You can't help it at first, but you will TRAIN yourself to grow in this area, so that you are secure for REAL in your own worth and that you don't need to laugh every two seconds in order to "bridge the gap" between you and her. There is no gap, except the one that you have created deep in your beliefs.

4. TIME IS VALUABLE, SO ACT ACCORDINGLY.

It's amazing how guys will suddenly behave with women as if they have all the time in the world. If you have value, then your time is valuable. If you are chatting up a woman and she says something like she has to get going to x,y,z, then the reality is that you should have also had lots of other things that you have to get to. You can even let her KNOW about what you are having to go to, and tell her something like "yeah, I have to get going to, to x yz, etc" and then CONTINUE THE PICKUP! Don't stop the pickup, but this way you indirectly and effectively let her know that you are also super conscious of time and it's value.

In fact, let her know that you have to get going soon as well.

This way, she is actually more flattered that you ARE talking to her especially if you are congruent, in the sense that your tonality isn't submissive to her or laughing at stuff that isn't even funny.

It feels like you DON'T just spend all day talking to women, which you honestly shouldn't be doing, you should have a life beyond women as well.

Also, in general, if you are valuable and you know your time is valuable, then you don't have time for trivial arguments and negativities. That should show in your reactions and behaviours and even in your online profiles. I've even gone so far as to verbalize it specifically, time is too precious to waste on trivial arguments and negativities. I'd rather get on to the more fun and rewarding stuff right away! And women who are hot realize this as well in their own lives, because they have a lot of options so why would they want to waste time on being a downer or with someone who was a downer?????

And why should you? This is another example of how real success is not about acting, this is how you really SHOULD be. This is also why it's CRUCIAL you make DECISIONS when with women, it's not only because it shows confidence and masculinity, it also shows you don't have TIME to wait for everyone to figure everything out, and that rather you are the type of guy who MAKES things happen in life, you don't waste your life WAITING.

These are REAL WORLD tips that will make an IMMEDIATE difference to your results with the women of your choice. If you would like to learn MORE about the kind of real world stuff that actually leads to gorgeous women sexily and happily stripping off their clothes to make sweet love and other things with you, then here are the steps I recommend:

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