Ending a Friendship

Ending a friendship can be as painful as ending a romantic love affair. People have different opinions and thoughts which can anguish a person more, ending a friendship or ending a love affair. The satisfaction and the happiness you get from friends are not comparable to the gratification and joy you can have from a romantic relationship. I think these two should never be on the same level with each other. In ending a friendship and love affair, though the degree of grief may be different and the hurt and disappointment may be incomparable but altogether it is a very unpleasant and uncomfortable experience.

Though the form of betrayal in romantic relationship is excruciatingly painful, in a friend companionship the betrayal can be quite unexplainable because it can come unexpectedly. Somehow, in some cases you expect a love affair to end because it has a lot of expectations and conditions but in friend companionship somehow you expect it to last longer because it has less expectations and it's unconditional. It is when the only requirement is to be yourself and to be true to it. That's why when a true camaraderie ends, the pain can be unfathomable that your only way of dealing with it is to be totally become indifferent to your ex-friend.

Whether you like it or not, ending a friendship can be the only option you have, especially if the reason is betrayal of trust. Nothing can be more painful and excruciating for a person that is being betrayed by a fellow friend. When he or she goes out and tell people your most personal and private details then turning your back may be the wisest thing that you should do. Another reason that ending a friendship is the best thing that you should do is when he or she doesn't know how to honor his or her words. If he or she constantly breaks his or her promise to you then what's the point of being friends right? If your friend brings out the worst in you then it is be best that ending a friendship is the best decision you can do for yourself.

For instance, he or she knows that you are vulnerable and hurting instead of doing something productive, he or she persuades you to take drugs or something self-destructive. Or if he or she knows fully well that you are a recovering alcoholic but still persuades you to go in a bar and have a few drinks. Ending a friendship is a good judgment call when he or she gets jealous with your other friends and doesn't want you to hang out with anybody else except him or her. A controlling friend is never a good friend. Another reason why ending a friendship in the best choice is when you friend makes you feel bad about yourself, he or she hates your parents, your husband or worst, your kids.

If he or she regularly makes you feel that your choices in life is a bad choice then maybe you should consider if he or she is there to be your friend or to be a pest. Friendship is an extension of yourself. This is when you can tell things that you cannot tell your husband or your parents. This is when you are not condemned and judged by being yourself, this is when you are supported unconditionally but is not tolerated when you cross the line. It is supposed to be a gift, so don't waste another minute spending your time with an unworthy friend.

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