Who are we to judge a person who is in involved in extramarital relationship? We never know and we will never know their reasons behind it but they always have the justification for doing it. Some wives would say that they feel neglected and unattractive from their husbands and some would say they want to get even. Some men would say that they cannot stand their wife anymore or that they are being sexually deprived. Some people who were and are still involved in extramarital relationships would say that they feel so all alone and misunderstood in their marriage and they need someone to talk to.

Some would just outright say that they are bored in their marriage and they want some excitement. Others would say that they are suffocated and being in a clandestine relationship makes their spirit free and lively. While some infidels would truthfully say that they fall out of love with their spouse and found true love in their lover. Whatever the reason may be, infidels would say that being in an extramarital relationship works for them. If you are one of those people who are living a double life and have luck on their sides and were not caught by their spouses- yet, I have an advice for you when ending an affair should be done.

I am not going to lecture you on the consequences of being a cheater, you know that already. You know the risk but I am going to give you some perspective when ending an affair may be the one decision that can literally and figuratively save your life. Ending an affair is on its perfect timing when your husband or wife is receiving anonymous text messages or phone calls warning him or her of your rendezvous. This means that people are starting to notice your indiscretions. That your private relationship is not so private anymore, this means things are getting out of hand.

Being in this kind of rendezvous is all about being careful, if things get careless better stop now. If that doesn't scare you, well, think about this, can you and your lover enjoy each other's company when both of you are constantly looking behind your back if somebody is following you or not? This can be a very stressful and troublesome situation and eventually in no time you and your lover will have a mild case of paranoia. Another reason why ending an affair is a genius idea is when it doesn't work for you anymore, when instead of feeling good about yourself, you feel bad and dirty.

Dirty is a very strong word to use but it doesn't justify even half of what I meant. If you do something that makes you feel very guilty, it goes without saying that you will feel like the ugliest and the most unworthy person here on earth. And if you feel that way then you cannot function properly as a person. If you feel bad about yourself, you become this mean, inconsiderate and selfish human being. Yourself should always be your ally if not then you are in deep hole of manure. If you are becoming this monster because of you extracurricular activities then perhaps ending an affair is in its rawest time.

Initially, in a clandestine affair, you don't feel guilty or bad because you can get caught in the moment of sexual and emotional roller coaster but when the fun disappears and if the purpose of having an affair is met then ending an affair should be done asap. When things are starting to get serious in your secret relationship and the purpose is gone the ending an affair is the wisest thing that you should do. In everything you do, decipher your purpose. Don't become this fool who drives without a vision because it's a sure way road to nowhere.

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