So, you're looking for the girl of your dreams-maybe you've already found her, spotted her from across a crowded room. Now, you need to get her into your arms and keep her there forever-essentially, you need to make this girl fall in love with you.

The first step of getting a girl to fall in love with you is the first impression. First impressions are important, you have to act and dress the part, although, don't stray too far out of your normal realm. You want to make a good first impression, not a false one. Be your best self, dressed nicely but not too overstated. You also need to watch your language, obscene language will only offend the girl and give her an impression of you being immature and uncultured. All you have to be is your cultured, most mature and reasonable self.

Getting a girl to fall in love with you takes time. Don't consider that the girl will fall in love with you at first sight. You will have to work for it and working for it will take time. You will have to add some flair and romance to your dating style. Back in the old days, you would court a lady or call on her. Everything the men of old did related to being romantic and concentrating on the whims of the lady-of course, the ladies were ladies then as well. Being different in your approach to the woman will also help you stand out from the crowd. If you approach her in the same manner that every other guy before you has, you will be less memorable and less unique. You want to stand out from the crowd in a good way-try something different yet romantic to get her attention.

Don't forget the importance of friendship with your new girl friend. Being her friend is paramount to learning who she is. She is a girl and girls love to be love, want to be wanted, and need to be needed. Listen to the things she says with an open mind, and read between the lines. Chances are that she is telling you the secrets to who she is and how to sweep her off her feet. Real love is built upon a sound friendship and being friends will take you in to the future with a solid foundation. Even if you don't wind up living happily ever after, you will have a chance to at least maintain a friendship with the girl.

Being a good friend is something that women find attractive in a man. This means that your intentions should always be pure and not always sexual. Being able to be a shoulder to lean on for her, an ear for her to bend and someone who ca be supportive to her and of her without needing to be intimate will win you a place in the woman's heart. Be available for celebration and for letdowns equally-praise her when its needed and warranted and offer support when she's been let down or had a bad day.

Make your girlfriend feel special all the time-just for being herself. Let her know that she is special to you as your girlfriend-as a lover and as a friend. Appreciate what she does for you, let her know you are grateful for the time she spends with you, for the times she has supported or been supportive of you and for the times that she was there for you when you needed her.

When you talk to your girlfriend, share yourself with her. Share your goals and dreams, your letdowns and disappointments-share your world with her. Encourage her and allow her to encourage you, build dreams and goals with her that you can achieve together. Never underestimate the importance of thought-tell her you think of her a lot, when you get up, when you go to bed and throughout the day. Her knowing that she was your first waking thought and last thought before sleep will send her heart soaring.

Don't fail on the creative front as you continue to court the lady. Keeping it real and alive can be some of the most trying things in a relationship that you are trying to grow into love.

Never underestimate the power of a quick phone call-a pick her up to let her know that you were thinking of her and just wanted to let her know and hope she is having a good day.

Drop the romantic interludes-wait to kiss her. Be a true gentleman and bow out before the evening gets too heated. Yeah, it might 'hurt' you a bit, but waiting until she is ready will help to win her heart.

Be patient-with time you will win the girl and her heart and she will be yours forever.

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