If you're interested in learning how to win HER back, here's a bit of information that might help. It may not be easy and it might not even work but if you don't at least try, you will never know. You also need to understand that some relationships are just not meant to work and if that is the case with yours, then don't even waste your time and effort. Rather look else where for comfort and a new beginning. However, the main objective here is to "win her back" and so this is how we do it.

Firstly, you need to be in control of your emotions. This is not an easy task at present, emotions are running high for both of you, ranging from anger to grief and shock so it is difficult to try and focus. It requires both conscious effort and control and you need to keep your "eye on the ball" as it could be tough, time consuming and sometimes, demoralizing. But if you stay focused, then you have the opportunity to prove to yourself and everybody around you, especially your ex that you're capable to deal with difficult situations.

When staying in control, you have to keep a mind to not retaliate. Most guys retaliate after a breakup and this definitely will make things worse than they already are. "Getting her back" or "making her want you more by making out with her friend" will NOT work. It will only validate her mistrust of you and push her away even further. You need to give your ex time along, avoid contacting her, especially immediately after the break up. This is probably one of the most difficult things to do, but it is necessary and it also gives her a chance to miss you.

The last thing you need to do is "hibernate" as it is often tempting to stay at home along following a rough breakup and but this is the worse thing you could do. Not only will you be seen as weak, but it will exacerbate your situation even further driving home your sense of loneliness. It is important that you stay in touch with your friends and continue to enjoy life. You need to keep yourself busy.

If you want to know how to approach your ex, talk to her friends (if they agree to talk to you), if not, be persistent and let them see you are genuinely regretful. The more information you can gather on your ex's state of mind and her feelings towards you, the better. Research, organization and preparation hand in hand together with a romantic ambience, environment, intention or occasion should work hands down any time. Once you have an idea of where her mind is at, you can plan your approach accordingly and design a "come back" strategy that will not only impress her, but "blow her socks off".

Michael Webb
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