I've read several books on mating and courtship behavior among different species of animals (including humans!). The funny thing is that humans do just about the same things as most other animals with slight variations.

Here are the main ways male animals (humans included) find females:

• Staking out a small territory among other males where females come specifically to select between males who are displaying for them (called Lekking in the animal kingdom).


• Staking out a larger territory where other males aren't allowed and showing that they can provide for a female because they control a large territory.


• Visiting places where females gather or are likely to be and displaying for them.


• Choosing a spot where they are very visible and displaying in hopes that a passing female will show interest.

Some human equivalents are:

• Hanging out at a gym or spending time on the beach with other guys to show off for women.


• Buying a big house and inviting women over to see how successful and rich you are, demonstrating that you can provide for them.


• Going to a Yoga class where you know there will be 10 women for every man.


• Becoming famous or popular, thus placing yourself in the path of many women.

The point is that there's nothing new under the sun. If you want to meet women, you have to:

1. Decide what kind of woman you want.


2. Find out what is attractive to her and be it.


3. Go where these women are likely to be (or set up a situation where they come to you).


4. Approach and engage them (or, if you can figure out how to get them to approach you, do that).

It's all the same game. Most men who are failures with women aren't willing to do what it takes to be successful. That's the bottom line. I'm going to give you the secret ingredients that attract women and invite you to combine some of them with your personality in order to attract the kind of women you're interested in. The question is, "Are you willing to do the work that it will take to be successful?"

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