If you don't create attraction right off the start you will end up in the "nice guy", "just friends category" and you will not be very likely to get out of it. Without attraction you are dead in the water.

There is a huge amount of advice on the net on how to create attraction. Some of it is excellent and some of it is absolute B.S. We are going to discuss the one ingredient that will either ensure she's attracted to you or that will ensure she rejects you.

Any woman will tell you that she knows within 10 seconds if you are someone she might consider going to bed with. OK, she may not actually tell you that, but rest assured she will assess you that fast.

Do you know how she makes a decision about you that fast?

It's called body language.

Women are masters at reading body language. It's so deeply ingrained into them that they are able to tell a million things about you just by the way you walk.

They know if you are confidant, considerate, fun and a good catch or if you have low self esteem, are selfish, boring and a total loser the minute you walk in the door.

It doesn't seem fair does it? She's already made up her mind about you before you've even opened your mouth.

Why not use that information to your advantage?

You can fake body language to a certain point, and at first that's just what you may need to do, but there's a better way.

Become the type of person that women are attracted to in the first place, and let your natural body language speak for itself.

Develop the right personality traits and women will naturally be attracted to you, and you wouldn't need to rely on a bunch of silly tricks and pick up lines that she's seen and heard a thousand times before.

Here's a list of traits that you should start working on.

• Confidence without being arrogant.
• Consideration for others without being a pushover
• Assertive without being bossy
• Respectful and nice without being a wimp.
• Witty and funny without being the class clown.
• Happy
• Healthy. You don't have to ripped, but on the same token you don't want to look like you about to die.
• Energetic. This kind of goes with being healthy.
• Intelligent. This doesn't mean you need a university degree, just that you can carry on an intelligent conversation.
• Neat and clean. Don't be a slob, no matter what you may think it's not attractive.
• Responsible.
• A certain level of financial stability. This shows responsibility.
• Hard to get. You are the prize not her. (careful that you don't turn this into arrogance and disdain for women)

Use what ever means you can to develop as many of these traits as you can, and it will show. You will have no trouble attracting women if you can be the type of man that has at least some of them. They will notice you as soon as you walk into the room.

I know it will take a bit of work, especially the confidence part, but you can do it if you really try. If you have to fake it at first, do so. Eventually you wouldn't be faking it, and you will be that person.

No amount of tricks or silly lines are going to create attraction. It's your personality and how it shows through your body language that's going to make or break you, so develop the right personality.

Just because you've managed to create attraction doesn't automatically mean she's going to jump into bed with you. Find out How To Succeed With Women.

Without Embarrassment will teach you how to meet and date far more women than you ever imagined possible

Gary Caine
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