Traditionally, men have always being viewed as superior than their female counterparts and thus they are people who take more initiative. When men do things, usually they will not consider the consequences. They tend to feel a greater sense of urgency and not to hold back things for a longer period of time (lest they miss a good opportunity), but would instead prefer to kick-start and complete the tasks at hand first.

On the other hand, women are more cautious and always on their alert mode. They tend to prefer to take a longer period of time to look at things from all angles and directions before they decide the next step they want to take.

So, do not lose heart when you are being rejected for a date with the woman you like. Try this method. If she says 'No', be a gentleman and gladly tell her: 'Do not worry. I would not disturb you again.' Then be sure that you mean what you have said and do not contact her for about a month. After a month, find a compelling reason to contact this woman and see what happens. Most of the time, you would find that this woman has been expecting and waiting you to call her.

Most women tend to feel regretful after the other party graciously accepts her rejection, as this is not something she would expect. Most of the time she would expect some resistance, stubbornness and challenges from men, but because you are different, you manage to get her interested in you.

If you manage to get her on a date with you, try this. For instance after you have both watched a movie and while having supper together, you can tell her: "I'll send you home after 15 minutes." 15 minutes later you have to really fulfill your promise and without showing any signs of regrets or reluctance, walk her to your vehicle and send her home. In this way, you would have been seen as someone who is very responsible and gentlemanly. Besides making her feel that that night is not enough and that she wishes she could stay out with you longer, you would have won over her affection too. When you walk her to her door, similarly try your best not to show any signs of reluctance in leaving. This strategy would help to enhance your relationship with her.

If your girlfriend asks to break up with you, try adopting the above method and see if it works for you. If she asks for a break-up, why not accept her request graciously. I know it is not an easy thing especially if you are someone who is already very attached to her. But many times this is one of the best and effective methods to get her back to your side.

After you have graciously accepted her request, and you really mean it to not to disturb or irritate her in any way for the many days that follow, there will come a time when this woman would feel regretful for the break-up and for all the hurting words she might have said to you. Why? You have given her the opportunity to do some soul searching and to resolve any internal conflicts which she might be facing during that point of time and which you may not be able to resolve for her except her herself. By giving her the 'space' or 'breathing space' she needs during that critical period, ironically you would have made her missed everything that is good about you. You must realize this, such men who are willing to take the calculated risks of letting go are rare to find. Eventually, she would be so regretful of it all that she will ask to return to your side.

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