The path to orgasm looks very different for a woman than it does for a man. It is infinitely easier for a man to cum than a woman. However, a woman can cum exponentially more times than a man can. That is, when she can cum at all. A lot of women can only achieve climax through self stimulation. However, the quality of her orgasm tends to be better when she has a partner. You need to learn the correct way to get those orgasms flowing. Here are a few things to keep in mind when you're touching her downstairs.

Direct vs. Indirect

How you make contact with the clitoris is very important to her orgasm. Before she is properly turned on, direct clitoral contact can feel quite irritating to a woman. It is best to start with indirect contact. Run your fingers along either side of the clit's shaft. Tap the clitoral hood. However you move around, do not go for direct stimulation until she is good and ready for you. Once her breathing is heavy, and you can feel the throb below, then you can move to the sweet spot to send her over the edge.

Rhythm vs. Speed

An incredibly important distinction to make is the rhythm of your touch versus the speed of your touch. A lot of men think they are the same thing, but they are not. Speed may vary, but rhythm should not. Most women like to start with slow, easy caresses, but they invariably increase speed the closer they become to achieving orgasm. However, they still maintain the same rhythm with which they started. It's their "beat," if you will. So no matter how much you increase the speed of your caresses, maintain a consistent flow to the activity.

Thrust vs. Grind

Did you know that women get very little stimulation through penetration alone? There are very few nerve endings in the walls of the vagina. Sending her into blissful orgasms simply by sticking your penis in her is a long shot. No matter how hard you rail her, you will not get her off. However, that doesn't mean that she is completely incapable of climaxing while you are inside her if you do it right. Instead of a poke, try a grinding motion. It will allow your pubic bone to make contact with her clitoris, which will give her the stimulation she needs to reach orgasm. It's why so many women report the woman-on-top position as their favorite. They can control the action, so they're able to get that clitoral stimulation by rocking their hips forward to allow contact with the head of the clit. Most men like it when their woman rides them. It provides great visual stimulation, and you penetrate very deeply.

Michael Webb
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