1) It is important that you do not tell and reveal all about yourself and your life to her without leaving a trace of 'unknown' behind.

Many men tend to tell the women all about themselves thinking that by taking a tell-all approach they would definitely win the heart of the women they like. The result they get is in fact, the opposite.

Realize this. Most women are only interested in men who are somewhat mysterious to them.

When a woman meets a man, she gets to know more about this man - his behavior, his character, his habits and his attitude in life. Besides all these, a woman always loves to think: "There must be some other interesting things about this man which I have not discovered. What is it?" They love to build up a balloon of curiosity within themselves and this is what spur them on to wanting to be with you, wanting to know more about you, wanting to show care and concern for you, and wanting the uncover those 'unknown' and mysterious part of your-self! Her curiosity about you and your mysterious part will always be increasing if you know how to make use of this to get her to be forever interested in you. Once you can get her to be interested in you (by creating a sense of mystery about you-self), this interest she has in you will not be easily eliminated and will always be in her even after marriage.

2) Woman often likes to feel she has been worthwhile in your life and that initially she does make a difference in your life.

Woman's character tends to be nurturing, and this is a subtle skill and strength which nature has given her. So, if you want this woman, or even to think about getting a date and more dates with her after your first date, try to tap into her nurturing nature.

She does this by showing that she wants to help, to offer you encouragement and support through means and ways, to show her beliefs and enthusiasms in you, your interests and your life, to be always there for you.

So what can you do to get her attention, or to get a date with her? Create the opportunity for her to lend a helping hand.

To get close to a woman whom you want to attract, find a chance or create an opportunity where she could give you a helping hand in some projects. You can try to plan to set up a temporary stall at a flea market and sell your old stuff. Invite her to give you a helping hand, ask her if she wants to sell her stuff too and clear up some space in her house. Organize a garage sale at your backyard. You can do it for charity. If you tell her it is for charity it might be easier for you to ask her to come along.

Do not be too arrogant and do not be too proud of yourself or your ability. Be responsive! Show your appreciation for whatever she has done for you, however small the deed is. It your action that counts! Let her know that you appreciate what she has done for you, and that you appreciate her for who she is. If she hears this, I can tell you, you are more than half way there to winning her heart. If you are not an emotional person, you can show your appreciation through your gestures, smiles, cheerfulness, and attitude.

Whatever it is, create an opportunity where she knows she can contribute. Women love being appreciated and for some women, they love getting involved in activities which they would never have the chance to participate in during their normal routine. If you can be the man who can lead her out of her boredom and make them feel that she has done something great by giving a helping hand and contributing to a good cause, she will be attracted towards you! Why? You have made a difference to her lives, and they love those feelings of doing something different.

3) It's The Little Things That Counts

Be observant. If you spot her admiring something which she likes very much but keeps holding back about buying it for one reason or another; without her knowledge and if it is within your means and power, secretly buy it and present it to her as a surprise gift. Get it for her with sincerity without expecting her to meet any of your expectations or without asking any favor in return. This is one of the best ways to capture her heart! But if all you want is to put some demands on her, then it is better you don't do it. You can learn to be thoughtful in many different ways:

1. Return her borrowed books for her


2. Prepare breakfast for her before she wakes up


3. Offer her a ride if it is about to rain after work


4. Buy the dessert or drinks she favor while having meals without her asking you to do so


5. Offer to walk her dog for her

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