Timmy was a well-decorated American soldier.

During the Iraq war, he boldly led a three-man team on a daring and risky assault against heavily guarded enemy flanks.

His companions and fellow soldiers recounted to friends how Timmy single-handedly broke through enemy lines with unusual courage and insolence.

"He was remarkably brave out there," they told friends.

But the same brave and decorated Timmy back home cowed in front of beautiful women. He felt shy and dreaded talking with them.

"I hate to admit it but I seem tongue-tied and scared approaching women," he confessed.

Darlene, one of their pretty neighbors and Timmy's childhood crush, attended Timmy's homecoming party but Timmy never took the courage to ask her for a date. Years later, he met Darlene, now married with five kids, in a school reunion.

"You know, I fancied you a lot when you were still single "he regretfully admitted to her.

"Then why didn't you tell me? "she sighed.

Now listen up, guys, and pay particular attention to Timmy's answer. It's a classic, self-defeating myth that had been perpetuated through the ages.

Timmy scratched his head and said, "Well, I thought that pretty women like you will never hook-up with ordinary-looking guys like me."

Sounds like most of us, isn't it? Surely you have the same thoughts in your head. We guys are really funny!

Here are the top 3 false and ridiculous dating myths that are harming your dating life:

1.) MYTH #1: YOU NEED TO BE DASHINGLY HANDSOME TO GET GORGEOUSLY BEAUTIFUL WOMEN.

We blame the media for this. For so long, radio, TV, and movies constantly bombard us with ads and messages about beautiful women pairing up with handsome men. In real life, the exact opposite is true. Women prefer men's caring traits than being good-looking.

"I am not after the looks of a guy, "says Glenda, a top-notched ramp model. " I just want someone wholesome and have a great sense of humor."

Pat, her colleague, echoes Glenda's remark.

"Me, too," Pat adds, "I am not particular with a guy's appearance as long as he is caring and protective of me."

There you have it, guys. Indeed a surprising eye-opener for us. And how do you deal with this insidious myth?

Accept your uniqueness.

Be yourself and be proud about it.

2.) MYTH # 2: YOU NEED TO BE WEALTHY OR POPULAR TO ATTRACT WOMEN

Ever had those images of rich guys driving along BMWs or Porches with smoking hot chicks aboard?

You're not alone.

Most guys harbor the same thoughts but are reluctant to admit it.

"We women don't fancy guys with sport scars or racing yachts, "says Bianca, a pretty, celebrated movie star.

"Or guys with stocks and bonds", adds Camille, another stunning beauty flight attendant. " Personally, I'd settle for fun-loving man who can make me laugh and show me a good time"

To banish this myth in your life, you only need to know how to carry yourself in front of women.

You don't need the money, the fame, or the looks.

You just need to know how to attract the kind of women that you want.

3.) MYTH # 3 YOU NEED TO BE A GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST TO SLEEP WITH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN

Nothing is farther than the truth. While it is true that you should be able to engage women in an interesting conversation, you need not be obsessed in being a good conversationalist. Just be true to your words.

"I'm attracted to men who speak honestly, "declares Cherry, pretty Manhattan office manager.

To help you hold interesting conversations with women, fill your mind with worthwhile ideas. Browse through newspapers. Read a gossip magazine. Try something new. Go travel.

Do fun stuff and live to talk about it.

Women love to hear you talk about these!

You don't have to be a great conversationalist to attract women. You just need to be a little interesting.

If a woman finds you interesting, then it will be easier to get her to go out with you.

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