Ah, the proverbial "nice guy" - the one that always gets dumped by the heartless bitch who would rather be beaten up by Chris Brown. No, no, no, you have it all wrong.

"Nice guy" is a misnomer because it's not that a guy is too nice, it's all these other reasons why women end up dumping these so-called nice guys and going after the more mysterious and thrilling men.

Nice guys are insecure

No one wants to hang out with an insecure person, especially when that insecure person is a man who claims to love his woman. With a desperate need to be loved or even liked by another person, it's painful to watch a man who needs constant attention.

Insecurity in a man is akin to a woman who scratches her crotch - no one wants to be around that. Ask any woman and she'll tell you that she wants a strong man who she feels is her protector. She does not want a man she has to reassure every 4 minutes.

Nice guys smother women

I enjoy spending a lot of time with my boyfriend of the moment, but I also like spending time away from him. How else would I ever miss him? Nice guys unfortunately want to spend every waking moment with their girl and do not give her room to breathe. Is anyone else feeling claustrophobic?

The nice guy just doesn't know when to back off and would even move into his girl's place if she made even the slightest joke about it. He wants to hold her hand; he wants to snuggle; he wants to be by her side and kiss her even when she has morning breath. It's almost creepy.

Nice guys are too available

The nice guy will drop any and everything to be by his woman's side. If she needs a lift home from work at 3 in the morning, he'll be there to pick her up. If she needs him to pick up her dry cleaning and drop it off at her place, you betcha!

He will make himself available all the time and this will definitely get tedious after a while. Although, if all a woman wants is a chauffeur and assistant, then she has likely found her man.

Nice guys provide no challenge

No matter what she wants, no matter how mean she gets (and believe me, she will get mean after some time has passed), he will always be nice. Now I'm not suggesting that a normal guy should slap a woman around or anything, but a backbone and a firm "no" on occasion would be refreshing.

The nice guy just doesn't see the point of stirring "trouble" by being defiant and refusing to do something his woman wants done. She wants him to wax her car, no problem. She wants him to have gay sex with her gay best friend, sure thing. Okay, perhaps that's going a little too far, but I think you see where I'm going with this.

Nice guys need some backbone

It's not that nice guys are losers; nice guys simply need to learn how to assert themselves and be more confident. It's not an easy thing to learn if they've spent their whole lives being yes-men, but with a little help from the right woman, they can learn to become more dominant and ballsy.

Before you know it, you'll be smacking your woman's ass in public and not calling her for a couple of days - just to keep her guessing. And you know what? She'll want you 10 times more than she ever did before.

And no, women don't want "jerks" over nice guys - what women want is a man who has a backbone, who is comfortable in his own skin. Women want a man who is a leader and not a push-over. Women want to be loved, not worshipped.

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Vanessa Hunt from DateDaily.com
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