A lot of guys ask me... Can I poke a girl on Facebook to start a conversation? Here's the short answer... NO!

Sure, it's a cool little tool to use on your friends... but for picking up beautiful women you barely know or don't know AT ALL on Facebook? Not a chance!

Poking a girl (or cyber hugging, kissing, etc.) is pretty much useless... I mean... beautiful girls probably get poked more than the Pillsbury Dough Boy on Facebook!

And just as often, they press the "remove" button to get rid of those annoying pokes from desperate guys. I saw one of my hot girlfriend's Facebook account and my jaw dropped.

She literally had dozens and dozens of guys poking her on a regular basis. Her e-mail account was filled with notices of guys she didn't know poking her.

"I don't even have time to get rid of those!" she tells me... boy, was she annoyed!

Poking a girl isn't unique or funny... nor does it convey any value or induce any amount of attraction.

Really... nothing beats a good, solid, well-thought first message that conveys a LOT of value without sounding too cocky or arrogant... and that COMPELS her to message you back.

Typically, especially on Facebook, this can be tough. At least girls on online dating websites ARE looking for guys...

But surprisingly, building rapport with a good-looking chick on Facebook is easier than you think!

There are a few key ingredients in a first message that you really need to have. Listen carefully, here... because the first message is probably going to the most important message... or definitely one of the most important.

One of the key ingredients that your first message needs to have is a strong purpose. No, telling a girl that you barely know on Facebook that she's cute isn't a STRONG purpose. It's a rather weak one.

And no... asking her to "webcam" with you isn't going to work, either! Too many guys do that. It's way creepy if you haven't figured that one out yet...

A strong purpose can range from a very intriguing open-ended question to a silly little remark regarding her profile picture. No, a question like "How are you?" just won't cut it. That may work in real life if you convey strong body language, but online, it must be much deeper... more thoughtful.

You really need to know how to push her curiosity buttons. You need to make her WANT to message you back.

I mean, you can even make a sly little judgment about her... something like... "Hey, you look like you're on Facebook ALL the time..."

This will make her want to message you back. She doesn't want you thinking that she's a computer nerd that has no life... so she's going to be compelled to message you back and correct your initial perception of her.

Really, it's quite a simple mechanism that you can exploit.

Oh yeah, and remember... spelling and grammar is always important.

If you want to have all the tools to build rapport with girls on Facebook FAST, you have to check out my brand new course that I just released that tells guys, step-by-step, exactly how to pickup beautiful girls on Facebook.

You'll never have to leave the house again to pickup girls... not that you SHOULD do that... but at least you'll know how to. For the days you're feeling lazy and you wanna get laid...

So go ahead and check out my course here!

Derek Lamont
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