I promise you, from the depths of my soul, there is nothing like the attraction power unleashed from a real place, a real emotion, within you.

Think about it:
Attraction is an EMOTION.

No emotion on earth is effectively triggered by fakes. Think about any music or songs you love. Especially the EMPOWERING music. The stuff that unleashes POWER AND SOUL in you.

Do you think these artists are FAKING that?

Even ACTORS, the BEST ACTORS don't feel they are ACTING, they are IN THE MOMENT when they are performing. It is REAL to them.

This is known in fact as Method acting.

In their own mind, they BECOME that person they are portraying. This is what makes them so convincing and so EMOTIONALLY IMPACTING.

Guys get so caught up in such FAKE and constricted little BOXES of behavior when it comes to their interactions with women, that it becomes IMPOSSIBLE for these guys to unleash the INFINITE power of what is within them for real. They also lose all spontaneity, which is a huge part of an effective pickup. In addition, when you become fake, you don't ENJOY the process either, which only harms the interaction further.

In fact, the ONLY reason guys who eventually get ANY success with using fakeness and "tactics" is because they use them so often, that they start to REALLY believe that is NECESSARY and NORMAL, and so they slowly get less and less weird as they get more relaxed doing the weird stuff. But it's really messed up.

It's putting the cart before the horse, as the right behaviours will actually FLOW once you UNDERSTAND the whole picture regarding:

1.The truth about all human emotion and how to trigger ALL the different states of mind, both in yourself and in women.

2.UNDERSTANDING the truth about the "proper" sexual behaviour women feel pressured to PUBLICLY uphold.

3. Understanding how to bring out the SEXUAL vibes in a fun and yet cool, non-psycho way.

Once you have got THIS stuff down pat, then you can go about picking up the women of your choice or going for a serious relationship, or whatever it is you want. THEN your pick up skills will improve REALLY quickly with practice, and your relationship success will improve massively as well.

Without understanding this stuff at all, you'll still benefit from going up to women and practicing, but you will be moving at a far far FAR slower pace than you would if you had this understanding.

Let me give you a perfect example:

Guy "A" sees a woman he'd LOVE to approach, but is scared of screwing up and he also feels he has no idea of what to do.

So he learns a "tactic" and a "funny line" and he goes in and says it. His body language totally says all kinds of unattractive weird stuff, but she laughs because hey the line was at least somewhat funny and challenging.

This is still not necessarily bad, it's okay, because all he has done has STARTED the convo. This can be okay for a beginner, just to get the convo started if they are new.

But your MIND has to be WAY BEYOND this, you can't be consciously "THINKING" about "what to say". In fact, the only point of having something memorized for guys that memorize stuff is so that they DON'T focus on worrying about what to say, so they CAN focus their energy on just their VIBE.

If you are relying on tactics, not only are you going to be nervous, but you are TRAINING yourself to think in terms of "what do I say NEXT" type of thinking. "What is my next line? Do I show more VALUE now? What is my VALUE routine?? Do I say something FUNNY now??? Do I do something CHALLENGING???"

That's all no good.

Even if a guy pulls out "all the moves", it will be INCONGRUENT to his body language that is showing he is actually WONDERING WHAT TO DO.

When a guy does that "moves" stuff, if it ever gets a result, it's IN SPITE of it, not BECAUSE of it. In other words, the girl basically is thinking "hey this guy at least had the guts to come up to me".

But the lines stuff is not HELPING him.

Now, let's move over to guy "B".

This guy understands the FULL PICTURE about human emotion, about women, about the way culture affects women and what that means for the way you must perform a pickup, and he understands also about how to be in and GET INTO the right states of dominance, fun, sexuality, and resourcefulness, not just for picking up the WOMEN and attracting them, but also for making his own reality, his own life, a PASSIONATE and rewarding one.

And he also has learned how CONVEY this state of mind and the emotions within him and his identity through his wardrobe and accessories. He is NOT faking, he is simply EXPRESSING HIMSELF using a medium that everyone is already using, the only difference is that everyone else is asleep at the switch while he is AWAKE and ENJOYING the privilege of being allowed to wear what he wants in a free society. HE is the one being himself, while everyone ELSE is being a CLONE.

It's interesting, there was this movie called "V for Vendetta". I wasn't really so into the movie except for the MAIN character, the guy who wears this mask for the ENTIRE movie. (This character is damn cool, I don't care what anyone says - his use of clothing, his independence, his understanding of human emotion, his use of tonality, just awesome.)

Not even the love interest ever sees his face. In fact, there is one scene where she tells him she wants to see the "real" him, and she wants to remove his mask, and he gently yet confidently and smoothly tells her that in that case, there is truly no purpose in seeing what is beneath the mask.

Very powerful display of the intelligent use of communication:
What is the REAL you? How do you choose to EXPRESS the real you?

Are you currently expressing the REAL you, or are you inadvertently expressing a message that is TOTALLY THE OPPOSITE of who you really are?

You have to first become AWARE of all that you can be, and what you want to be, and you have to become aware of the signals and messages you are CURRENTLY sending from everything you are doing and thinking and wearing right now. Then you have to learn how to express yourself EFFECTIVELY in all these different ways. And you have to learn how to understand different women and human emotion so that you can better calibrate your interaction so you two are on the same wavelength.

In a crazy way, what this is all really about is EFFECTIVE AND ACCURATE EMOTIONAL COMMUNICATION and it's about making YOURSELF and WOMEN feel GREAT.

Okay, let's get back to guy "B", who GETS all this stuff, he has the INSIGHT, he has the understanding, and he is living his life that way, and he knows how to send off ACCURATE messages about himself through everything about him, from his tonality, his body language, his warmth, his confidence, his hobbies, his masculinity, and so much more.

What we have THEN is total congruency. So he is ALREADY in a great state because he is living according to his OWN values, pursuing his OWN goals, living his OWN way. And he knows how to CONVEY this as well to OTHERS, and he also UNDERSTANDS women, and human emotion.

When HE sees or a woman he'd like to approach, or he meets a woman he'd like to find out more about, he actually has the full picture, the holistic perspective: He is thinking he is SEXUALLY intrigued/interested, yes, no doubt about it, and he is feeling EMPOWERED, yes, no doubt about it, but he is ALSO feeling GOOD about the woman. He is not feeling like she is some creature from another universe who needs to be manipulated with some b.s. "control tactics".

He also UNDERSTANDS a lot about her already, because of his knowledge of women. He also knows that there is a lot more to her than just the fact she is a woman, there is a lot of individual things about her that are unique, and that he will learn about from chatting with her. Not so much the details of her resume, but rather, the important nuances and foundations of her personality.

He will open up a conversation with her using ANYTHING as an "opener" and it will work because it's just an OPENER and said with good vibes and good body language which is all you need for an opener.

He will understand her BETTER with every passing second because she is talking with him as well, thereby giving him INFORMATION to HELP him do the pickup that in fact SHE WANTS HIM TO DO.

She is in a way GIVING EXACT INSTRUCTIONS FOR HOW TO TAKE HER AWAY FROM HER PLANET AND INTO HIS WORLD TO BE SWEPT AWAY.

But this is only evident to a guy who UNDERSTANDS human emotion and who also understands the "secret" culture of women that they have had to keep a secret from men for thousands of years in order to survive.

And all along, he is feeling HER vibes and he knows how to make her feel both comfortable and also feel good to be in the presence of a masculine cool yet intelligent and witty guy.

His body language and vibes speak louder than words, but it's not over yet, because his impact has prompted her to ask HIM questions about him because she WANTS to know more, so without him TRYING hard, he ends up revealing COOL THINGS about himself NATURALLY.

So he doesn't QUALIFY himself, he can't HELP it, it's totally indirect, because it's just her GETTING TO KNOW HIM.

And the way he answers these questions, he isn't trying hard, he's even teasing her a bit on them, because he naturally is RELAXED about it and giving her a laugh, NOT TO "MAKE GAMES" with her and dick her around, but to MAKE THINGS MORE FUN. He's also being masculine by doing this, since he feels dominant enough not to be NEEDY for her approval.

All this is something women APPRECIATE.OUL And enjoy.

And don't forget, part of what is helping him do all this is because he actually HAS developed hobbies, interests, perspectives, goals, etc, that are intriguing/compelling/interesting to HIM, so that any woman, or women, are not his entire world.

And this upbeat vibe?
It's not something he's doing just for WOMEN. It's for HIMSELF and for all who he allows into his awesome world. It's the way he lives his LIFE, so every day he is growing in many different cool ways, and over TIME this leads to insanely powerful momentum that SWEEPS AWAY ANY OBSTACLE in his life, and he can do just about ANYTHING.

Nothing stands in his way, no man, not even any woman. And THAT is attractive to women as well.

And of course, all along, as she is also chatting with him, he knows how to make her FEEL GOOD because, he is actually LISTENING and interested, and CARES about this fellow human being.

Which doesn't mean he'll take an OUNCE of abuse from her, but the truth is if she acts in any way weird or "bad", he knows it's really HER problem, something he'll laugh at and chalk up as a chick who hopefully will get her psychological life in order soon, but not on his time.

Some of the things you'll learn from me is how to make women feel GREAT INSTANTLY, how to make yourSELF feel GREAT, how to know what's going on emotionally with her when this or that happens so that you can respond effectively to her emotions. You'll also learn how to know what's going on with YOU when the wrong emotions try to creep in, and how to get BACK into state, and how to develop the HABITS so that you find yourself MORE OFTEN in the right states and less and less often in the wrong states.

You'll also learn the SPECIFIC COMBO of states you need to be in especially for PICK UP, and how to GET INTO these states.

You'll learn how to INTENSIFY the emotional experiences she feels from you, and I'm not just talking about sex, although I go into DEPTH on that as well, but I'm also talking about intensifying the awesome emotions she experiences with you ALL THE TIME.

You'll also learn to HARNESS the power of your sexual energy so that it GUIDES you instinctively in the pick up and blocks out the negative emotions at the same time.

If you are the kind of guy that wants to not only attract quality women, but make women DAMN HAPPY they met you, and you want to learn to do all this without ever having to be a "performer", then you owe it to yourself to get my Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship Program.

You will learn the most ADVANCED skills of attraction, including everything from how to achieve the specific states of mind you need, how to approach women in EVERY kind of situation, how to smoothly and quickly escalate the interaction to a physical level, how to understand the deepest levels of emotion that are key to winning a woman's heart long term, how to dress in a way that ultra-cool and expresses the coolest dimensions of your personality, and much, much more.

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