You have to consider that men and women are very different. Men tend to think with their heads more than their hearts, but women let their emotions run their life. They think that everything works out when you go to the direction of the heart, but men tend to think more logical about things. Women are spontaneous, and men are planners. Some men plan their entire life and never do any of it, because they are still planning.

Women will plan maybe a day or two ahead, but they do not plan weeks at a time because they know that their heart will change their direction. The reason why women need security is much the reason why men need security.

There are men who feel very out of control. They don't control what they do for a living, they don't control their marriage, they don't even control their daily schedules, however, the security will bring more than just security, but also it will prove that there is a safe haven.

Women turn to their men for protection, because they feel safe with a man. They feel more in control of the relationship when they have the security.

Men never realize what marriage means to a woman. Marriage to a man can mean: I'm giving up something of myself when I am married! I'm giving up tons of things - including my freedom, and at times, activities I'm passionate about!

But most women feels that marriage is a way to find security in a relationship and also a way to find their path.

Everyone needs a path in life. Marriage is a way that women see progress, not control. You may think that marriage is the worst thing you can do in the relationship, but a woman sees it as a way to have true commitment.

It is the first step to the rest of their lives. Not only is security something that a woman needs to let their guard down, but it is a way that they can grow and expand without worrying about all the hurt that the world could give them.

Women will forever have the Stone Age issues. They will always feel that they are not worthy as long as men are paid more than women; as long as men, are seen to be better than a women. Even though there are freedoms in certain states or countries, you will notice that there are still countries that make women wear masks because they are not worthy. It seems silly, but until every woman is given the same treatment as a man around the world, women will look towards a man and need approval.

They need the approval to feel like they are on the same playing level. They need approval so that they can find the courage to stand strong for themselves without having to worry about how they look by others.

There are men who feel that the emotional factor of a relationship does not always have to be there. You can have fun and laugh without having to show affection; which this is true, however, a woman needs to feel that their feelings are being validated.

Have you ever fallen in love and got your heart smashed into the ground? It does not feel good. In fact, it can be devastating. Why would anyone put himself or herself out there when they know that it could end up in disaster? Most women believe in true love.

Most women have been trying to find it for years. They need the consistent emotional connection to make sure that they are not in the losing end. They are not the weakest link. Love is tricky, but to women it is a risk that is always worth fighting for. They need the connection to make their day fulfilling. That is why they need to be held and talked to with a soft voice. They need to know that you love them through words and actions, or they will never know.

If someone is important to you, why don't you show him or her? You don't want to mess with someone's heart, but you will want to allow yourself to be out in the open and vulnerable.

You never know what will happen in a relationship. You should take in the consideration that a woman has feelings that need to be validated. If you are able to validate your woman, then you will be able to validate the relationship and the two of you will find the relationship in the happily ever after end zone.

A committed and blissful relationship is hard work and you need to be prepared to give it your all. You need to be prepared to give her the emotional attachment that will make her feel secure. If you cannot handle the emotional aspect, you might not want to take the relationship on.

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