Early in a relationship the romance factor is very high. The romance is seemingly effortless and it seems as though the romance will never fade. You may find, however, that over time the romance does fade and the relationship doesn't seem as exciting as it did in the beginning. This is natural as a couple becomes more familiar with each other they begin to make less of an effort in the romance department. When this happens it is time for the couple to start making a conscious effort to recharge their romance.

1) What Does She Want?

Most women are very sensitive to what others are thinking and saying about themselves. This usually results from the fact that for a long time women have been seen as the weaker or softer group when compared to their male counterparts. In other words, it is one of women's weaknesses too, and if you understand this, you would be able to make use of this to formulate your strategy in winning over the heart of the woman you love.

You could try expressing your love for this woman in front of other people or when both of you are in a big group. She may respond by saying you are thick skinned, but in actual fact she was proud of it. Why? Because you have made her feel very good about herself, and with your courageous act you have made her feel that she really is a very attractive and special person in your heart.

2) A Little Surprise

Unlike men who always look for excitement, challenges and changes in life, most women would prefer a peaceful, secure, and comfortable life. Many women are also used to living a life with not much excitement and adventure. For this reason, many women have often wished that life would give them a little surprise and change every now and then, and any surprises, however small or large, would have caught her attention and got her hooked.

The ironical part is, even though many women would love a little excitement and challenge in their normally quiet and peaceful life, they do not really look forward to anything that is too drastic or brings about tremendous changes. If you want to win the heart of a woman you love, you have to know this secret - Women often love a little surprise in a peaceful life.

Once you know this secret, you'll have an upper advantage over other men! You would know how to approach the woman you love. First you know that you have to fulfill their need of a little excitement and challenge in life, while at the same time, you know you have to first let her see you as someone who is trustworthy and mature. So, you have to build this foundation first, to let this woman see you as someone who is able to provide a sense of security. On this basis, you can then proceed to create a little surprise for her every now and then. For more romantic and creative ideas, make the effort to research the net. There are many free resources available on the net for good, unique and awesome dating ideas.

So, your secret weapon here is to break the routine at an appropriate time, place and atmosphere, and you'll bound to capture her heart and make her very happy.

3) How About A Little Challenge

If the woman you like is a really attractive girl and she already has a lot of men wanting to get close to her, what you have to do is to ignore her a little intentionally; this is the easier way to catch her attention.

A woman who is very popular and attractive is usually someone who is full of confidence. And because there are probably a lot of men who want her, she will naturally have a keener observation of the men she knows. As attractive woman are used to the praises of men, she would have taken everything for granted and would feel that since she is so popular and attractive, men should come forward to please her and gain her approval. Thus, if anyone should criticize her or reject her, she would naturally not give in so easily and would try very hard to gain the approval of the other party who dare to go against her or her views. This is one of the weaknesses of attractive women and this is also one of the most effective tactics you could use if you ever decide to want this woman.

This is what you should do. Occasionally, challenge her and her views if you have found out where and what her weaknesses are. If you can do this while most other men are trying so hard to please her, you'll be noticed as doing something very different from her usual experience. In fact, she'll feel that this is very refreshing and unexpected (from your side).

However, you have to remember this rule. For 80% of the time you should be giving sincere, honest appreciation (of her good points), but for 20% of the time you could try to challenge her. If you criticized her or challenged her too drastically, you can forget about winning over her. But if you can give the right amount of challenges, you would have ignited in her a subtle curiosity about you (because you are different from other guys!). Very likely, you would have got her interested and wanted to find out more about you!

Tips To Take Note

Spending time apart can also recharge a romance. It may sound counterproductive but having your own activities and interests keeps you from becoming bored with your partner. Spending time together is very important but spending time apart is equally important because this time apart gives you the chance to grow as an individual which can enhance your relationship.

Quality time together, just like time apart, can also help to recharge your romance. You need alone time as a couple to reconnect and nurture your romance. A night out on the town for just the two of your or a quiet night alone at home can be equally effective for recharging your romance. Without this time together a couple will not have the opportunity to express themselves to their partner in a romantic way.

It is natural for romance to begin to fade if the partners begin to take each other for granted and stop trying to impress each other. Romance doesn't exist on its own; it needs to be nurtured in a loving way in order to survive. Recharging your romance may seem like a daunting task but it really isn't. Making an effort to spend time together, showing your partner that you care and scheduling time together and apart are all simple ways to recharge your romance.

©2006

Show All Articles By Cucan Pemo